March 1, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help-Mate

March 1, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words Of Love #4

The Reflection of Our True Heart Condition

“The heart of the wise man makes his speech judicious and adds persuasiveness to his life.”Proverbs 16:23

As God’s children our words need to be truth.  Another word for exaggeration is lying.  

“He is the way, the truth and the life” John 14:6a. Jesus is truth.  “Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.” Pr. 12: 22a.

Others may fail us and we may become disenchanted by the things going on  around us but spiritual victories can be won when we teach ourselves how to react to those things with “words of love” and truth.  

I have found it helpful to use a small note book to make notes of things that I say that perhaps I wish I had said another way or not said at all.  Then I re-write my “words of love” so that I will be prepared ahead of time for those moments when the right words fail me. 

In dealing with our family and loved ones sometimes the truth hurts, so this is an especially important time to bathe our words in prayer and plan ahead.   If we do have a time when we have spoken hastily, it is important to remember to ask forgiveness for not being as sensitive as we should have been. The Lord will help us through these times when we stay in the Word and pray without ceasing.

Often on FaceBook people post without a thought and  others  put a great deal of thought into being as obtuse (annoyingly insensitive) as they can get away with.  This only succeeds in showing the Scripture truth that we referred to last week;

 “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”Mat. 12:34.  

We can ask the Lord to change our hearts so that we can speak words of truth and words that heal.   We who know Christ can respond as one who is filled with the Holy Spirit and truly be a reflection of His LOVE.

Let us be your Delight, O LORD

Feb. 15 & 22, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart    .. . Pastor’s Help-Mate

Feb. 15 & 22, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart    .. . Pastor’s Help-Mate

Word’s of Love #3

Power and Wisdom from Above

“Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me!” Unfortunately, that childhood refrain couldn’t be further from the truth.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” Philippians 4:8.

We don’t have what it takes to control our tongues.  We need the power and wisdom that comes from above.

Ps. 119:11 “I have stored up your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” We can change our words by changing our hearts.

Luke 6:45  “the good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good…. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”  If we ask the Lord to help us with our words He will convict us when our words do not please Him.  We might say, I didn’t mean that or It just came out, when truthfully  what comes from our mouth is from our heart.

James 2:3 says “We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.”

We need to be honest with ourselves and allow God to transform us by the power of HIS Holy Spirit.  When our hearts are filled with Him, His wisdom and His grace, we will speak in such a way as to bless others.

Merciful Lord, I praise you that we can call out to You when we need Your help to know how important it is to encourage and pray for others.   Help us to confess the wrong of our hurtful words when they really reflect a heart issue.  Help us to be better and not bitter. Give us  repentant hearts. Fill us, Lord, with Your Holy Spirit that our words will be words of love. Help us Father to think of others and how we can encourage and bless them and to forget about ourselves. Thank you Lord for youR forgiveness and blessing and for the JOY that only YOU can give. In Jesus name. Amen.

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Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words of Love #2

Prov. 16:24  “Gracious words are like a honey comb,

sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”

The body and soul are in close relationship. We can not separate them. Sweet kind words will lend help spiritually and physically.

Words of encouragement will lift the spirit and have a true healing affect on the recipient. It is important that we are not just the recipient of encouraging words but the givers.

I cannot explain the joy and encouragement that I receive when someone in our ministry introduces me as “this is our pastor’s wife”.   This spurs me on to a fresh desire to do the job of pastor’s wife even better for God’s glory and honor.

I was studying for this article and the phone rang and it was our sister Becky who wanted help with a hymn arrangement in the Key of C and I mentioned to her that some of the newer hymnals have transposed a lot of the hymns to lower keys because (in my opinion) “people are lazy”.   I stopped….  Ooops!  I am here writing about being encouraging and using positive talk… and I caught myself….being negative…. I should have said, “because peoples voices are lower than in years past.”

By the blessing of the upright a city is exalted”. Prov. 11:11a

Think of someone who needs to be encouraged. Write out your plan  and the words you will use and then put that plan to use. If you don’t have a plan you probably won’t do it.

Prov.10:20  “The tongue of the righteous is choice silver.”

We ladies tend to be more verbal so we need to guard our tongues. There are over 100 references to the tongue in the Proverbs.. And there are twelve of them which refer to the heart.  How do we get tongues of righteousness? By being connected to the source of wisdom, the Scriptures, the Word of God.  The heart that is bathed in the Word of God will come forth with rich words of silver, highly refined. Thus our tongue will flow with words that are of superior quality. Help us Lord.

We will not need to use negative comments, minced oaths or slang expressions of crudity. Because we are filled with the Holy Spirit. He will give us the words to say out of hearts of love.  “Thy word have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against Thee.”  Ps. 119:11

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words of Love #2

Prov. 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honey comb,

sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”

The body and soul are in close relationship. We cannot separate them. Sweet kind words will lend help spiritually and physically.

Words of encouragement will lift the spirit and have a true healing affect on the recipient. It is important that we are not just the recipient of encouraging words but the givers.

I cannot explain the joy and encouragement that I receive when someone in our ministry introduces me as “this is our pastor’s wife.”  This spurs me on to a fresh desire to do the job of pastor’s wife even better for God’s glory and honor.

I was studying for this article and the phone rang and it was our sister Becky who wanted help with a hymn arrangement in the Key of C and I mentioned to her that some of the newer hymnals have transposed a lot of the hymns to lower keys because (in my opinion) “people are lazy.”   I stopped….  Ooops!  I am here writing about being encouraging and using positive talk… and I caught myself….being negative…. I should have said, “because people’s voices are lower than in years past.”

By the blessing of the upright a city is exalted” Prov. 11:11a.

Think of someone who needs to be encouraged. Write out your plan  and the words you will use and then put that plan to use. If you don’t have a plan you probably won’t do it.

Prov.10:20  “The tongue of the righteous is choice silver.”

We ladies tend to be more verbal so we need to guard our tongues. There are over 100 references to the tongue in the Proverbs.  And there are twelve of them which refer to the heart.  How do we get tongues of righteousness? By being connected to the source of wisdom, the Scriptures, the Word of God.  The heart that is bathed in the Word of God will come forth with rich words of silver, highly refined. Thus our tongue will flow with words that are of superior quality. Help us Lord.          

We will not need to use negative comments, minced oaths or slang expressions of crudity. Because we are filled with the Holy Spirit. He will give us the words to say out of hearts of love.  “Thy word have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against Thee.”  Ps. 119:11      <www.jane.wpatch.com>

Jan. 25, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart ……Pastor’s Help-Mate

Jan. 25, 2015 Jane’s Heart to Heart ……Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words of Love  #1

On August 24, 2000,  a 46 year old woman tossed a burning match onto the ground when she stopped by the road to light a cigarette.  As she confessed later, rather than putting out the burning match, she just glanced at it and left the area.

Over eighty-thousand acres of valuable timber burned.. Janice Stevenson, was arrested on suspicion of starting the fire. She pled guilty to second-degree arson, was sentenced to twenty-five  years in the South Dakota State Penitentiary, and ordered to pay restitution in the amount of $42,204,155.48 [CNN.com Sept. 2000].

Hearing this story we might say, How could she leave a burning match in a dry forest?”  Yet according to the Scriptures this is what we do daily when we do not guard our tongues. 

James 3:5-6  “Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.      

The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.”

Personally, I often talk without thinking how  the one receiving the words may feel. I may not intend to hurt, yet my words could cause great damage like the burned forest.  It might take years to restore.

Proverbs 15:4 “A gentle tongue is a tree of life but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.”   Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Wholesome words give life.

Many times we are blind to the affect of our words. Let us pray that the Lord will open our eyes to ways that our words are hurtful or damaging. The next time you think to say something that might hurt… Pause, pray, and try to rephrase what you  say to uplift and encourage that person.

Proverbs 10:20-21 (NIV)The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value. The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of sense.

Here I paraphrase Germaine Copland’s Prayers That Avail Much for Women

Lord, help me to let go of all bitterness and bad temper and  anger.  Thank you for being my Wonderful Counselor and thank you for helping me to be forgiving and with the help of Your Holy Spirit I can get rid of all bitterness. My desire is to be holy so that others can see You in me. In Jesus name, Amen

JAN. 18, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART  ….PASTOR’S HELP-MATE

When I think of Charles Gordon I think of a man of God who had a great desire to influence his children to give their lives to the Lord to serve him faithfully and that is what Charles wanted to do himself.  In our prayer services he often expressed his desire as many of us do that he had been a better Christian example before his own family.  Sometime we wonder why the Lord allows us to tarry before we go home to be with him.

From a message The Mantle of Elijah, By David Wilkerson,    January 17, 2000 from “The World Challenge Pulpit Series.

“Second Kings 2, contains one of the most spectacular passages in all of the Old Testament. This chapter tells the miraculous story of the aging prophet Elijah and his servant Elisha. When we pick up the story, God has informed Elijah that his ministry on earth is over. Now he is to cross the Jordan River and go to a certain place, where a heavenly chariot will pick him up and translate him to glory. My First Question in Rereading This Story Was, 

Why Did Elijah Take Elisha On This Whirlwind Trip? Why did the older prophet want his servant to accompany him to Bethel and Jericho? Surely it wasn’t just a sentimental journey for Elijah, one last trip down memory lane. No – this wise, old man wanted to teach Elisha – as well as us today – our need for more of God’s power and anointing.  We Know This Trip Is Not for Elisha’s Sake Alone, But to Instruct Every Succeeding Generation”

There is a song I love to sing by: Floyd W. Hawkins (1962 by the Lillenas Publishing Company).

LET THY MANTLE FALL ON ME

1) Elijah was God’s prophet Elisha stood close by,

And ere the prophet left him,  He heard his servant cry:

Then Elijah made the promise that if faithful he would be,

His petition would be granted, And God’s glory he would see

3) As Elijah rose to heaven In a chariot of fire,

He did not forget his servant, Who expressed one strong desire.

4) In the Upper Room they waited — “Twas the faithful Christian band -

And their pray’r was heard and answered Over in the gloryland.

5) That pray’r of early Christians Long ago and far away

Is the cry of all God’s children; And He’s just the same today.

CHORUS:  Let thy mantle fall on me! Let thy mantle fall on me! (on me!)

A double portion of Thy spirit,  Lord, Let thy mantle fall on me!

Let’s all work together and pick up that Mantle ….and serve our Saviour as many faithful saints  have before us.

Mantle = a loose fitting cloak or shawl….  Old English word for   a role, responsibility or burden that one person passes on to another.

JANUARY 16, 2015… AS GIVEN TO THE DEACONS AND WIVES OF EVANGEL BAPTIST CHURCH (TAYLOR MI)

Introduction:  I can not think of a greater honor than to be able to speak to deacon wives. What a high calling this truly is.

This is not about climbing the social ladder of the church….not an elected office. This is about being a  servant/slave  in service with your life mate as his helpmate and supporting your husbands roll as servant.

“I Timothy 3:11 Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.”

The first qualification of course is that she is a Born again Christian and the one and only wife of a deacon. God has not called to “special service” those who have never answered the gospel call to service!

Have any of you ladies read any of Diana Davis books for Deacon Wives???  Such as… Fresh Ideas for Women’s Ministry

When I speak to ladies I always like to recommend reading materials for them that will help them in their ministry for Christ.

Just to give you a little idea about Diana – She is a deacon’s daughter and a Pastor’s wife, women’s speaker, writer, columnist, and has been the pastor’s wife to anywhere from 2 – 100 deacon wives in the life of their ministry together.

Let me begin with a quote from her book entitled, DEACON WIVES. Published by LifeWay.

(and I quote)   #1 Smile

A joyful heart makes a face cheerful…” Proverbs 15:13a

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 (HCSB)

Got joy?

This story is true. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. I spent time each week discipling Janet, a new Christian. She had asked about the role of deacons, and she quipped, “Oh, I’ve figured out how to spot which ones are the deacon wives.” Curiously, I took the bait. “How?” “They’re the ones with the scowls on their faces!” My heart sank. As I sat there, picturing the deacon wives that she had met, I realized that their faces did hold a permanent frown! Janet didn’t know their kind hearts and loving ways. She merely saw their outward appearance. The next time I was with them, I related that sad story, and challenged them to smile.

Scripture challenges us to “Be joyful always” I Thessalonians 5:16.

As a deacon wife, set the pace for joy at your church. Does your countenance convey joy? Does your family and church know that you have joy? Do you do God’s work with joy? Do your words reflect joy?

Speak positive words. It was a weekly phenomenon. After Sunday morning worship, I’d stand beside my pastor/husband, and we’d greet worshippers as they departed the service. One person would say, “Pastor, we need to turn that air conditioning down. It was sweltering in there today.” The very next person in line would comment, “I nearly froze to death in there!” Many complaints have little to do with eternity. Is it really worth launching a campaign to argue about carpet color or the arrangement of furniture? Don’t be the constant complainer.

A constant complainer reflects poorly on her God. She deters friends. She hurts her witness and her integrity. If you’ve developed a habit of complaining at home or at church, change that habit! John put it succinctly:“Stop complaining among yourselves.” John 6:43.

Christians have something to smile about. The God of our universe has written our names on his hand. (Isaiah 49:16). He cares intimately for us. He knows every detail about us, right down to the number of hairs on our head. (Luke 12:7). He’s promised us a life “more abundant!” John 10:10. Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. So smile.” (END OF QUOTE)

Now ladies,

I know first hand that smiling is not always easy…. As you can see…. I use a cane and sometimes a wheel chair….

A few years ago, I winced in pain and often when I got up from a chair or bent over and I would even groan out loud.

One of my young grandsons said, “Grandma, you scare me when you do that.”   Since that time I have prayed much that God would give me victory over whining and complaining and even showing pain on my face. I have to admit at times – not very successfully

I realized if this bothered a child perhaps this also would affect others around me in the church ministry.  I prayed and asked the Lord to forgive me and help me to show the JOY that I have in serving Him in such a way that it would be contagious to others. 

For over sixty years I have enjoyed that honor of “Singing His Praise”, and I have loved the ministry of music but in the past few years singing has become painful for me too and this truly has been the hardest thing for me to give up.

But, I praise the Lord that little by little He is helping me to say that I am “Still Singing HIs Praise in My Heart”.  He has not changed.  His love for me has not changed.  The song for Him is still inside of me.  Often I still start to sing around the house but have to stop after a line or two.

Can you say that you have JOY in your heart and does it show on your face….. Pray about this. This leads me to my second point.  Really this is your most important ministry.

# 2 Prayer

I have learned that praying about everything is the most important thing we ladies can do for the honor and glory of the Lord in the church – PRAY.

Now I am not just talking about you personal prayer time and Bible reading what we would call our personal devotions.  That should go without saying.   We of all people should be having our own personal quiet time with the Lord. 

But I find in ministry while serving in the church Sunday School classes, services, at funerals, weddings, picnics. RIGHT – every function of the Lord’s work needs people praying.

I have had people say to me I didn’t get to talk with you today because (fill in the blank)  you were playing the piano,  you were talking to those new people….or you were busy.   Right – doing the Lord’s work.

We need to be above that….   Call your pastor or his wife,  write them and note….. But pray for and with them as they minister. Ultimately you too will be doing ministry with an understanding heart.

How to pray for the Lord’s work in HIS ministry..

Pastor & His wife (filling of the spirit, wisdom &   strength), Deacons & wives, Church Officers(clerk, treasurer, Music leaders, cleaners, decorators, tech. Support people, etc.) when things aren’t going the way that you think they should  - PRAY

Winning the lost to Christ, Evangelism by each Christian in the church by name and their daily witness and life for Christ – PRAY

During the service when you see or hear a young mother struggling with her baby or young child, if something goes wrong causes a distraction in the service that could be distracting, for the pastor, the soloist or musicians, for those running the sound system. What a privilege we have to have immediate access to the Heavenly Father. He is able to solve those problems in a moment – PRAY

For our young people in the worship service, for an attentive heart and the Holy Spirits work in their lives. – PRAY

For our college and career age for direction and obedience to HIS will. -PRAY

For parents whose lives are filled with activities, their jobs and children’s lives that they will be able to accept God’s will for them. -PRAY

For those sitting around you as you participate with JOY in the service. -PRAY

Just think of the power of  PRAYER  scattered all around in the various ministries in God’s church.

What a  privilege to be a part of that heritage

#3 I would encourage all of you to memorize I Cor. 13….

Smile and Pray & Hide God’s Word in your heart.

Listen to this paraphrase from The Living Bible

1 Corinthians 13 Living Bible (TLB)

13:1  If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise.

If I had the gift of prophecy and knew all about what is going to happen in the future, knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would it do? Even if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, I would still be worth nothing at all without love.

If I gave everything I have to poor people, and if I were burned alive for preaching the Gospel but didn’t love others, it would be of no value whatever.

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud,

never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.

It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.

If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.

All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever. Someday prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge—these gifts will disappear.

Now we know so little, even with our special gifts, and the preaching of those most gifted is still so poor.

10 But when we have been made perfect and complete, then the need for these inadequate special gifts will come to an end, and they will disappear.

11 It’s like this: when I was a child I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I became a man my thoughts grew far beyond those of my childhood, and now I have put away the childish things.

12 In the same way, we can see and understand only a little about God now, as if we were peering at his reflection in a poor mirror; but someday we are going to see him in his completeness, face-to-face. Now all that I know is hazy and blurred, but then I will see everything clearly, just as clearly as God sees into my heart right now.

13 There are three things that remain—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

Living Bible (TLB)

Jan. 11, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART   …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Jan. 11, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART   …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Charles Haddon Spurgeon, born 1834 -died 1892 at the age of 58. He was a British Particular Baptist preacher. Spurgeon remains highly influential among Christians of various denominations, among whom he is known as the “Prince of Preachers”.            

I would like to read excerpt from the Metropolitan Tabernacle Pulpit, 1888

“Are you afraid that preaching the gospel will not win souls? Are you despondent as to success in God’s way? Is this why you pine for clever oratory? Is this why you must have music, and architecture, and flowers and millinery? [fancy speaking, the performance of music,  the building or how we dress?] After all, is it by might and power, and not by the Spirit of God?

I have shown you nothing but the cross, the cross without flowers of oratory, the cross without diamonds of ecclesiastical rank, the cross without the buttress of boastful science.   ……We beseech the people of God to mark that there is no need to try doubtful expedients and questionable methods. God will save by the gospel still: only let it be the gospel in its purity. This grand old sword will  split a rock in halves.

Do you see the scabbard of artistic work, so wonderfully elaborated? Full many keep the sword in this scabbard, and therefore its edge never gets to its work. Pull off that scabbard. Fling that fine sheath to Hades, and then see how, in the Lord’s hands, that glorious two-handed sword will mow down fields of men as mowers level the grass with their scythes.

There is no need to go down to Egypt for help. To invite the devil to help Christ is shameful. Please God, we shall see prosperity yet, when the church of God is resolved never to seek it except in God’s own way.”

I love that way of thinking, because our generation is so me-centered. It’s all about me; it’s about how I feel, what’s happening in my life, my circumstances, my problems, my desires, my happiness.

Elisabeth Elliot, These Strange Ashes   

“Christ is sufficient. We do not need “support groups” for each and every separate tribulation. The most widely divergent sorrows may all be taken to the foot of the same old rugged cross and find there cleansing, peace, and joy.”

Help us Lord to keep our eyes on the Cross and hide His Word in our hearts so that we will always be ready to tell others what Christ has done for us on the CROSS.

I Corinthians  1:18 “For the preaching of the Cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us that are saved it is the power of God.”

January 4, 2014     Jane’s Heart to Heart  …Pastor’s Help-Mate

January 4, 2014 Jane’s Heart to Heart …Pastor’s Help-Mate

God’s Expectations of Us vs Our Expectations of God?

As a Christian teacher I have often taught young people and adults various skills, such as voice, handbells, piano and the academics.  Often certain students were weak in Math but very gifted in  Art. Likewise some  did not seem to have any creative skills and were very successful academically.

I had a high standard for conduct and appearance during performances because family and parents would be in attendance and I desired a positive experience for both student and parent. The appreciation was as great for each performance of lesser or greater difficulty levels.

There was a time when I would wonder if some would ever be able to accomplish the task. The more experienced I became the more I realized that each person is created to be what God wants him to be.  Some students have to work very hard to maintain an average grade at best and others seem to be able to succeed in every area with ease.  Does that mean that we should not challenge either to higher expectations.

Having raised a budding  concert pianist we have attended countless recitals where as  he was the first pianist on the program rated as to his ability level and in later years sitting through the whole program  to hear him as the  last person on the program. Some of the times as his parent, even though he did well, we knew it was not his best. Just a few weeks ago we were brought to tears over his obvious dedication to the task.

Does God want us to be satisfied with status quo in our lives?  Of course not… Colossians 3:23 [in the Amplified Bible] says: “Whatsoever you do, do it heartily, for the Lord,, and not for men. Knowing that from the Lord you will receive an inheritance as a reward, Christ is the Lord for whom you work as a slave.”

Often we do the same thing in our thinking about God with respect to our public worship….it is natural and right of course that it should be of highest quality and that we should give Him our very best.  Yet, we do not want to come to the conclusion that God is not honored by our humble efforts as compared  to a highly professional performance. The real issue is God wants our best. We are His servants.

Our God has the capacity to hold both Big and Small in His mind.  We need to do our part to honor Him is everything that we do for HIS Glory, not for our own glory. He knows if it is our best.

One day a young man proudly strutted up to the platform to speak and did an inferior job and came down with his head held low..

An elderly lady said to him later….  “Sonny, if you had gone up like you came down, you could have come down like you went up!”