September 27, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   Pastor’s Help Mate

Several Ways to Make Yourself Miserable

Elisabeth Elliot
Keep A Quiet Heart

Count your troubles, name them one by one–at the breakfast table, if anybody will listen, or as soon as possible thereafter.

Worry every day about something. Don’t let yourself get out of practice. It won’t add a cubit to your stature but it might burn a few calories.

Pity yourself. If you do enough of this, nobody else will have to do it for you.

Devise clever but decent ways to serve God and mammon. After all, a man’s gotta live.

Make it your business to find out what the Joneses are buying this year and where they’re going. Try to do them at least one better even if you have to take out another loan to do it.

Stay away from absolutes. It’s what’s right for you that matters. Be your own person and don’t allow yourself to get hung up on what others expect of you.

Make sure you get your rights. Never mind other people’s. You have your life to live, they have theirs.

Don’t fall into any compassion traps–the sort of situation where people can walk all over you.                  Bible reading, prayer.  If you get too involved in other people’s troubles, you may neglect your own.

Don’t let Bible reading and prayer get in the way of what’s really relevant–things like TV and newspapers. Invisible things are eternal. You want to stick with the visible ones–they’re where it’s at now.

Filed Under: Manhood/Womanhood, Spiritual Growth

Now of course we know that Elisabeth Elliot certainly is saying these things in sarcasm to shock us with the folly of these things, but, oh how true it is that we often are our own worst enemy when it comes to majoring on the thing that will steal your JOY.

I’ve many a cross to take up now,  And many left behind;

But present troubles move me not,  Nor shake my quiet mind.

And what may be tomorrow’s cross I never seek to find;

My Father say, “Leave that to me, and keep a quiet mind.” -Anonymous

September 6, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart  …Pastor’s Help Mate

September 6, 2015 Jane’s Heart to Heart …Pastor’s Help Mate


Whatever you’re leaning on, whatever you’re looking to – to meet the deepest needs of your heart, will be the cause or the occasion of distress at some time or other—unless you’re leaning on the Lord.

The word Amen is from the word amenable, This is a person who is open and responsive to suggestion; easily persuaded.  A child who is easy to raise would be called amenable, cooperative, acquiescent, compliant, accommodating, obliging, manageable, controllable,  persuadable. Antonyms  would be unresponsive, resistant.

Last week John Wykes II asked if he hurt my hand when he shook my hand and we got to laughing about the types of handshakes.   The dead fish, or the knuckle breaker. Have you ever taken a persons hand and he or she did not respond, but it felt like a dead fish.

One time I was working in children’s church and I put my hand on a little girl’s shoulder to greet her and she tensed up and became very unresponsive.

Is this the way we are with the Lord. Do we resist His love and counsel.  Do you pull back from his guidance in His Word?   The Lord will never fail you. He will never distress you. He will never let you down.

Let’s look at  Psalm 131

Psalm 131

A song of ascents. Of David.

1 My heart is not proud, Lord,
my eyes are not haughty;
I do not concern myself with great matters
or things too wonderful for me.

2 But I have calmed and quieted myself,
I am like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child I am content.

3 Israel, put your hope in the Lord
both now and forevermore.

Now, let’s  look back to the previous Psalm. These are actually kind of twin psalms. Let’s look at Psalm 130, which just expands on hoping in the Lord. You fulfill Psalm 131:3, hoping in the Lord, by living out Psalm 130.


Psalm 130

Out of the depths I have cried to You, O Lord ;

Lord, hear my voice!

Let Your ears be attentive

To the voice of my supplications.

If You, Lord, should mark iniquities,

O Lord, who could stand?

But there is forgiveness with You,

That You may be feared.

I wait for the Lord, my soul waits,

And in His Word I do hope.

My soul waits for the Lord

More than those who watch for the morning—

Yes, more than those who watch for the morning.


August 30, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart    ….Pastor’s Help Mate

My husband, Ken came into my office, while  our grandchildren, Levi and Grace were visiting and we were wishing it was spring.  He was excited and said, “O.K.,   You need to go out to the breezeway to  see my surprise.”   I figured he did something silly and put Arnie, our stuffed lamb out there on my scouter, so I didn’t get in a hurry to go out.  Not much time passed when he came and with a disappointed tone to his voice, reminded me, “Don’t forget the surprise in the breezeway.

Wondering what he was up to now,  I reluctantly pulled myself up from my chair where I was teaching Grace how to crochet  and wandered out to the breezeway a little agitated  at being disturbed. 

Well, when I opened the door I was a bit ashamed of myself and I was truly delighted because I realized the significance of his disappointment. There in the breezeway sitting in the only place it could possibly fit was my swing which I love. My parents had given it to me a short time before they  graduated to heaven.  On the other side of the room was my “bird cage” swing, a name he coined for my wicker swing that looks like a bird cage. I love to sit in it too,  but it hangs from  just one spring  which breaks periodically and so we removed it from the living room since I fixed it, with three pieces of clothes hanger and that was not very pretty.

Last summer I went out two times into  the yard under our nice shade trees, to sit in my swing and was eaten alive by the mosquitos and bombed by bees. 

Ken has about all he can manage to drag that swing up and down the steps to please me and to keep it out of the weather in the winter and out doors for me in the spring.

What he  was trying to do was make a place for me to get out of my office and close to the fresh air  without getting any more skin cancer and not be eaten alive by bugs.

To do that he had to move my scooter, the generator, and the Adirondack chair out of the breezeway where they were being stored for the winter and into the garage and lawnmower shed.  To move that chair he had to clean out the whole shed to make room for it, which involved a whole lot of work.

I love it!  I love to come out here and relax and read and prepare for my posts. I am so thankful  for my dear man who goes to so much trouble to make me comfortable.

As I sit here and swing  in the cozy country parsonage breezeway, I can see up Hadley Road from my swing  and when the door is opened I can even see the traffic going by and the front of the church,  mirrored in the reflection of the door window.

This is truly  a blessing  that I would have missed it I had just ignored Ken’s coaxing.

This is the way our relationship with the Lord is sometimes.  Jesus coaxes us, Matthew 11:28-30 KJV  ”28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.  30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”  Come aside and rest and enjoy his many blessings!

Psalm 103:2  “Bless the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits:”


August 23, 2014   Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help Mate

Wisdom of a child……

Unknown author          

A little boy’s dog became old and ill and the family felt it was time to have the vet put him to sleep.

Shane seemed to accept his dogs transition without any difficulty or confusion. The family sat together for a while after the dog went to sleep, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ”I know why.”

Startled, we all turned to him.

He said,”People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?” The Six-year-old continued,  ”Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:

-When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.

Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure Ecstasy.

Take naps.   Stretch before rising.   Run, romp, and play daily.

Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.

On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.

Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.      Be loyal.

Never pretend to be something you’re not.

If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day, be silent,

sit close by, and nuzzle them gently.

I do think we can learn from our friendly pets. We who know Christ of all people  should be a true friend to others.

Proverbs 18:24  “ A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”                                     …





Isaiah 26:3-4 “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee.   Trust ye in the Lord forever: for the Lord Jehovah is everlasting strength.”   

Romans 15: 13 “ May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” NIV

If we continue without praise in our trials we give up peace and contentment and JOY.  We make things even worse when we remove ourselves from His grace and fellowship during these hard times by whining and complaining.        

We can counsel and train your hearts by being obedient and offering a sacrifice of Thanks letting God’s truth lift and sustain our spirits.

Christian contentment is that sweet, quiet, gracious frame of spirit, which freely submits to and delights in God’s wise and fatherly disposal in every condition.”  — Jeremiah Burroughs

Being joyful is not what makes you grateful

Being grateful is what makes you Joyful

August 8, 2015    Encouraging Words….

August 8, 2015 Encouraging Words….

Are you going through trials of many kinds….

James 1:2-4    Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials,   3. knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.   4. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

Let me leave with you an encouraging word from   Amy Carmichael’s words….



Hast Thou No Scar 

by Amy Carmichael

Hast thou no scar?
No hidden scar on foot, or side, or hand?
I hear thee sung as mighty in the land,
I hear them hail thy bright ascendant star,
Hast thou no scar?

Hast thou no wound?
Yet, I was wounded by the archers, spent.
Leaned me against the tree to die, and rent
By ravening beasts that compassed me, I swooned:
Hast thou no wound?

No wound? No scar?
Yet as the Master shall the servant be,
And pierced are the feet that follow Me;
But thine are whole. Can he have followed far
Who has no wound nor scar?

Philippians 1:29, “For to you it has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake.”

2 Timothy 3:12, “Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.”

II Corinthians 12:9-10   “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness. Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me…. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


Proud People vs. Broken People in the place of Jane’s Heart to Heart for July 12 – Aug 9

For the next five weeks I will be reading Nancy DeMoss’s list on her Bookmark for my “Jane’s Heart to Heart”  at Litchfield Baptist Church.  I am posting this so that you may enjoy the exciting and convicting  messages that God gave Nancy DeMoss.

Broken: The Heart God Revives,   so I will not post each week….

I just want to encourage all of you to go to her site and read the list which she used to make a bookmark and of course her book by the same name is also available on her web site.

This is an excerpt from Revive Our Hearts, July 6, 2015

You will want to go to the links below and the each day to Revive Our Hearts to listen as they relive it and even play the actual message.

Bob Lepine: There was in 1994 and 1995 on a number of college campuses something happening spiritually. Do you remember when you first became aware of any of that happening?

Nancy Leigh DeMoss: I do, Bob. I got a call at my home one night saying that God was stirring and that there was revival taking place on the campus of Wheaton College in Wheaton, Illinois. Some friends and I went over the next night to see what had come to pass, to see this thing.

Go to Revive Our Hearts and listen or read this exciting story… and continue each day to tune in to

If you follow this to the end of her messages you will truly be blessed.

Response to the Supreme Court Decision of June 26, 2015

This is Nancy DeMoss’s response to the Supreme Court Decision on 6- 26-15


June 28, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   … Pastor’s Help Mate

June 28, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   … Pastor’s Help Mate

A Tribute to Elizabeth Elliot Gren

I can recall like it was yesterday, while living and Chicago Ave. in Evanston, Il.   We were living in a small apartment  and Ken was still in the Navy.  I loved to listen to Moody Bible Institute’s radio station WMBI.   Suddenly the news broke of the death of the 5 missionaries martyred in Quito, Ecuador.

I have been so blessed by Elisabeth Elliot and over the years I followed her life and ministry.

 I have a collection of many of her writings and often refer to them as I counsel other ladies.

The following article is about this highly respected Christian woman’s life from  The Gospel Coalition. Current Events by Joe Carter

1. Elisabeth Howard) was born in Belgium,  her parents were missionaries. She attended Wheaton College where she studied classical Greek to enable her to work in the area of unwritten languages during her future missionary work.

2. At Wheaton, Elisabeth met Jim Elliot. After graduation, and for five years before their engagement, Jim and Elisabeth served in different parts of Ecuador. Eventually she accepted Jim’s marriage proposal and the condition attached to it: to learn the Ecuadorian Quichua language before they got married.

In 1953, Jim and Elisabeth married in Quito, Ecuador and continued their work in that nation where Jim wanted to enter the territory of an unreached tribe, the Aucas, a fierce group who had killed previous workers. Jim and four other missionaries entered Auca territory. After a friendly contact with three of the tribe, they were speared to death. (as told in the book and movie, End of the Spear.)

4. Now alone with her 10-month-old daughter, Valerie, she continued to live among and minister to the Quichua tribe where she met two Auca women who lived with her and taught her the tribe’s language. She then went as a missionary to serve the tribe that killed her husband. While there the people gave Elisabeth the tribal name Gikari,(Woodpecker).

5. While in Ecuador, she wrote her story, Through Gates of Splendor, Shadow of the Almighty and The Savage, My Kinsmen. In 1963 she returned to the U.S.and  she began a career as a writer and speaker and authored 24 books.

6. For 13 years, she hosted a 12-minute radio program aimed at women called Gateway to Joy. She opened each episode by saying, “’You are loved with an everlasting love,’ that’s what the Bible says ‘and underneath are the everlasting arms.’ This is your friend, Elisabeth Elliot . . .”

7. In 1969, Elisabeth married Addison Leitch, professor of theology at Gordon Conwell Seminary in Massachusetts who died in 1973. After Leitch’s death Elisabeth had two lodgers who rented a room in her home: one of them married her daughter, the other one, Lars Gren, married her.

8. Elisabeth’s life has been portrayed in a play (Bridge of Blood: Jim Elliot Takes Christ to the Aucas), a musical (Love Above All), and a film (End of the Spear).

9. In 2004 her health declined and she suffering from dementia. She stopped her program and that is where Nancy DeMoss began Revive Our Hearts. Her husband Lars Gren said Elliot has handled dementia just as she did the deaths of her husbands. [knowing] they were no surprise to God, something she would rather not have experienced, but she received it.”

Nancy DeMoss wrote:

” Elisabeth kept coming back to this message: “God doesn’t exist to meet our needs. Ultimately, He is God; He is worthy of our obedience, our worship, and our surrender to Him as Lord.   When I received the news that Elisabeth Elliot had gone to be with the Lord, I wept. It’s hard to describe the multitude of thoughts and emotions that those tears represented. To think of Elisabeth at Home with Christ makes the thought of heaven all the richer and sweeter.  She has received that welcome from Christ that we all long to hear: “Well done, good and faithful servant; enter into the joy of your Lord.”  May the message she has written on so many of our hearts be one we write on the hearts of those who are coming behind us. And may He find us faithful, as was our friend Elisabeth Elliot—all the way to the finish line.”

A young mother named   Adrian Segal called Elisabeth Elliot her spiritual mother because she listened to her radio programs each day. “I am grateful Elisabeth Elliot devoted her life to doing this for women in my generation. In just minutes a day, she helped me love my husband better. She helped me raise happy and obedient children who love the Lord. She helped me see that my greatest calling is to live each day, each moment, doing the next thing to the glory of the Lord.”

These words of Elisabeth  meant a great deal to her.

 Elisabeth Elliot said:

“This job has been given to me to do. Therefore, it is a gift. Therefore, it is a privilege. Therefore, it is an offering I may make to God. Therefore, it is to be done gladly, if it is done for Him. Here, not somewhere else, I may learn God’s way. In this job, not in some other, God looks for faithfulness”.


“The deepest things that I have learned in my own life have come from the deepest suffering. And out of the deepest waters and the hottest fires have come the deepest things that I know about God.”


“Trust Him and do the next thing.”

―Elisabeth Elliot

June 21, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   … Pastor’s Help Mate

Excerpts from Adrian Rogers’  sermon. “Father the Leader of the Band”

Blessed are all who fear the Lord, who walk in obedience to him. There is to be harmony in the home. Indeed, and who’s the leader, who orchestrates this wonderful music? Fathers.    Psalm 128 (NIV) contains a special message to fathers, so if you’re one, I’d like you to notice five wonderful truths to help you put music in your home. 

1.  The Father’s Labor   v. 2 You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours. There’s something wonderful about honest work — providing for your family and coming home to enjoy what God has given.

2.The Companion That He Loves   v.3 Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house;     A father’s companion is his faithful wife, because she clings to him like a vine clings to a wall. And a husband is to be to his wife what a wall is to a vine — her support and strength.

3.  The Children That He Leads  “your children will be like olive shoots around your table.” Did you know that the olive is a biblical symbol of fruitfulness and righteousness? An olive tree, if it is well established, can provide fruit for twenty generations.  If your wife is like a vine and your children are like olive plants, what is your role? You are to cultivate them!  Wise is the dad that understands that it is his duty and privilege to cultivate his wife’s love and meet her needs, and to cultivate his children and meet their needs.   The husband encourages and builds up his wife by shining His love and showering his affections upon her. 

4.  The Character That He Lives   Now, most people think happiness comes from marriage or money, success or fitness. The Bible says that the fear of God brings happiness.   And what does it mean to fear God? I like to think it is simply love on its knees. A  dad who fears God shows it by the way that he lives with integrity.

I Timothy 6:6  But godliness with contentment is great gain.” Do you know the problem with many dads? They’re not content.  Dads, what do you want to be remembered for? The job you held? The yard you kept? The money you earned?. Wouldn’t you like them to say, “My dad feared God. My dad walked in the ways of God.” If not it is never too late to change those things and show your children how much you care for them out of your love for God.

5.  The Contribution That He Leaves     Look now at  vs. 4-6 — 4 Yes, this will be the blessing for the man who fears the Lord.  May the Lord bless you from Zion; may you see the prosperity of Jerusalem all the days of your life.  May you live to see your children’s children, peace be on Israel.

Oh what a blessing to see your children and grandchildren serving the Lord.  There is hope for you. Every child of God has a Father who loves them unconditionally and eternally. You can crawl up into His lap anytime, anywhere and get a hug. Take this truth from the Word of God and not only think on it, but hide it in your heart.

Psalm 128

1  Blessed are all who fear the Lord,
who walk in obedience to him.

You will eat the fruit of your labor;
blessings and prosperity will be yours.

Your wife will be like a fruitful vine
within your house;
    your children will be like olive shoots
around your table.

Yes, this will be the blessing
for the man who fears the Lord.

May the Lord bless you from Zion;
may you see the prosperity of Jerusalem
all the days of your life.

May you live to see your children’s children—
peace be on Israel.