JANUARY 16, 2015… AS GIVEN TO THE DEACONS AND WIVES OF EVANGEL BAPTIST CHURCH (TAYLOR MI)

Introduction:  I can not think of a greater honor than to be able to speak to deacon wives. What a high calling this truly is.

This is not about climbing the social ladder of the church….not an elected office. This is about being a  servant/slave  in service with your life mate as his helpmate and supporting your husbands roll as servant.

“I Timothy 3:11 Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.”

The first qualification of course is that she is a Born again Christian and the one and only wife of a deacon. God has not called to “special service” those who have never answered the gospel call to service!

Have any of you ladies read any of Diana Davis books for Deacon Wives???  Such as… Fresh Ideas for Women’s Ministry

When I speak to ladies I always like to recommend reading materials for them that will help them in their ministry for Christ.

Just to give you a little idea about Diana – She is a deacon’s daughter and a Pastor’s wife, women’s speaker, writer, columnist, and has been the pastor’s wife to anywhere from 2 – 100 deacon wives in the life of their ministry together.

Let me begin with a quote from her book entitled, DEACON WIVES. Published by LifeWay.

(and I quote)   #1 Smile

A joyful heart makes a face cheerful…” Proverbs 15:13a

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 (HCSB)

Got joy?

This story is true. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. I spent time each week discipling Janet, a new Christian. She had asked about the role of deacons, and she quipped, “Oh, I’ve figured out how to spot which ones are the deacon wives.” Curiously, I took the bait. “How?” “They’re the ones with the scowls on their faces!” My heart sank. As I sat there, picturing the deacon wives that she had met, I realized that their faces did hold a permanent frown! Janet didn’t know their kind hearts and loving ways. She merely saw their outward appearance. The next time I was with them, I related that sad story, and challenged them to smile.

Scripture challenges us to “Be joyful always” I Thessalonians 5:16.

As a deacon wife, set the pace for joy at your church. Does your countenance convey joy? Does your family and church know that you have joy? Do you do God’s work with joy? Do your words reflect joy?

Speak positive words. It was a weekly phenomenon. After Sunday morning worship, I’d stand beside my pastor/husband, and we’d greet worshippers as they departed the service. One person would say, “Pastor, we need to turn that air conditioning down. It was sweltering in there today.” The very next person in line would comment, “I nearly froze to death in there!” Many complaints have little to do with eternity. Is it really worth launching a campaign to argue about carpet color or the arrangement of furniture? Don’t be the constant complainer.

A constant complainer reflects poorly on her God. She deters friends. She hurts her witness and her integrity. If you’ve developed a habit of complaining at home or at church, change that habit! John put it succinctly:“Stop complaining among yourselves.” John 6:43.

Christians have something to smile about. The God of our universe has written our names on his hand. (Isaiah 49:16). He cares intimately for us. He knows every detail about us, right down to the number of hairs on our head. (Luke 12:7). He’s promised us a life “more abundant!” John 10:10. Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. So smile.” (END OF QUOTE)

Now ladies,

I know first hand that smiling is not always easy…. As you can see…. I use a cane and sometimes a wheel chair….

A few years ago, I winced in pain and often when I got up from a chair or bent over and I would even groan out loud.

One of my young grandsons said, “Grandma, you scare me when you do that.”   Since that time I have prayed much that God would give me victory over whining and complaining and even showing pain on my face. I have to admit at times – not very successfully

I realized if this bothered a child perhaps this also would affect others around me in the church ministry.  I prayed and asked the Lord to forgive me and help me to show the JOY that I have in serving Him in such a way that it would be contagious to others. 

For over sixty years I have enjoyed that honor of “Singing His Praise”, and I have loved the ministry of music but in the past few years singing has become painful for me too and this truly has been the hardest thing for me to give up.

But, I praise the Lord that little by little He is helping me to say that I am “Still Singing HIs Praise in My Heart”.  He has not changed.  His love for me has not changed.  The song for Him is still inside of me.  Often I still start to sing around the house but have to stop after a line or two.

Can you say that you have JOY in your heart and does it show on your face….. Pray about this. This leads me to my second point.  Really this is your most important ministry.

# 2 Prayer

I have learned that praying about everything is the most important thing we ladies can do for the honor and glory of the Lord in the church – PRAY.

Now I am not just talking about you personal prayer time and Bible reading what we would call our personal devotions.  That should go without saying.   We of all people should be having our own personal quiet time with the Lord. 

But I find in ministry while serving in the church Sunday School classes, services, at funerals, weddings, picnics. RIGHT – every function of the Lord’s work needs people praying.

I have had people say to me I didn’t get to talk with you today because (fill in the blank)  you were playing the piano,  you were talking to those new people….or you were busy.   Right – doing the Lord’s work.

We need to be above that….   Call your pastor or his wife,  write them and note….. But pray for and with them as they minister. Ultimately you too will be doing ministry with an understanding heart.

How to pray for the Lord’s work in HIS ministry..

Pastor & His wife (filling of the spirit, wisdom &   strength), Deacons & wives, Church Officers(clerk, treasurer, Music leaders, cleaners, decorators, tech. Support people, etc.) when things aren’t going the way that you think they should  – PRAY

Winning the lost to Christ, Evangelism by each Christian in the church by name and their daily witness and life for Christ – PRAY

During the service when you see or hear a young mother struggling with her baby or young child, if something goes wrong causes a distraction in the service that could be distracting, for the pastor, the soloist or musicians, for those running the sound system. What a privilege we have to have immediate access to the Heavenly Father. He is able to solve those problems in a moment – PRAY

For our young people in the worship service, for an attentive heart and the Holy Spirits work in their lives. – PRAY

For our college and career age for direction and obedience to HIS will. -PRAY

For parents whose lives are filled with activities, their jobs and children’s lives that they will be able to accept God’s will for them. –PRAY

For those sitting around you as you participate with JOY in the service. -PRAY

Just think of the power of  PRAYER  scattered all around in the various ministries in God’s church.

What a  privilege to be a part of that heritage

#3 I would encourage all of you to memorize I Cor. 13….

Smile and Pray & Hide God’s Word in your heart.

Listen to this paraphrase from The Living Bible

1 Corinthians 13 Living Bible (TLB)

13:1  If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise.

If I had the gift of prophecy and knew all about what is going to happen in the future, knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would it do? Even if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, I would still be worth nothing at all without love.

If I gave everything I have to poor people, and if I were burned alive for preaching the Gospel but didn’t love others, it would be of no value whatever.

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud,

never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.

It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.

If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.

All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever. Someday prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge—these gifts will disappear.

Now we know so little, even with our special gifts, and the preaching of those most gifted is still so poor.

10 But when we have been made perfect and complete, then the need for these inadequate special gifts will come to an end, and they will disappear.

11 It’s like this: when I was a child I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I became a man my thoughts grew far beyond those of my childhood, and now I have put away the childish things.

12 In the same way, we can see and understand only a little about God now, as if we were peering at his reflection in a poor mirror; but someday we are going to see him in his completeness, face-to-face. Now all that I know is hazy and blurred, but then I will see everything clearly, just as clearly as God sees into my heart right now.

13 There are three things that remain—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

Living Bible (TLB)

Comments

  1. I read this again and loved it as much as I did a few weeks back. I really think there are a lot of young pastor’s wives who would benefit from your writing and web site. Keep up the great work.

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