October 23, 2016  Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help Mate

October 23, 2016  Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help Mate

karen7-2-20Karen Wilson is a very dear friend of mine on the internet who is deaf and has had many heartaches in her life… but knowing Karen as I do she would not want me to talk about her, but her wonderful Saviour.  I asked her to submit something which I could post this week.

The Fruit of the Spirit        Karen Wilson

Dear Heavenly Father,

As I reach out to You today, help me to be fruitful.

May I show love today, especially to those who are not  loving towards me.

May I show joy from You to others who are hurting inside. Help me to uplift and encourage that person!

May I rest in peace today, amidst a crazy world where wrong seems right and chaos rules. May others be calmed by Your peace in me.

May Your Spirit teach me long-suffering…and to rest in your perfect will for me. Remind me how your timing is always perfect in all circumstances.

May I be gentle and good to all I meet, so that they may see the gentleness and goodness of Christ through my life. And may they realize that it is only through Christ living in us, that the fruit of the Spirit can be revealed to others.

Give me the fruit of meekness, that I will not be easily provoked and that I will have a calm mind to face today’s challenges.

May I have the fruit of faith…to trust in You no matter what, and to rest in knowing that you have all the answers to my questions already worked out. Remind me that You were there in the past, You are here with me now, and You are already in the future, waiting for me there.

Finally, Lord, give me the fruit of temperance that I may live with moderation and self-restraint.

Lord, I pray all these things from my heart and for my life today, knowing that this is only possible when I release my will to Yours and allow Your Spirit to work in me. Amen

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,

goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

Galatians 5:22-23


Introduction:  I can not think of a greater honor than to be able to speak to deacon wives. What a high calling this truly is.

This is not about climbing the social ladder of the church….not an elected office. This is about being a  servant/slave  in service with your life mate as his helpmate and supporting your husbands roll as servant.

“I Timothy 3:11 Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.”

The first qualification of course is that she is a Born again Christian and the one and only wife of a deacon. God has not called to “special service” those who have never answered the gospel call to service!

Have any of you ladies read any of Diana Davis books for Deacon Wives???  Such as… Fresh Ideas for Women’s Ministry

When I speak to ladies I always like to recommend reading materials for them that will help them in their ministry for Christ.

Just to give you a little idea about Diana – She is a deacon’s daughter and a Pastor’s wife, women’s speaker, writer, columnist, and has been the pastor’s wife to anywhere from 2 – 100 deacon wives in the life of their ministry together.

Let me begin with a quote from her book entitled, DEACON WIVES. Published by LifeWay.

(and I quote)   #1 Smile

A joyful heart makes a face cheerful…” Proverbs 15:13a

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 (HCSB)

Got joy?

This story is true. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. I spent time each week discipling Janet, a new Christian. She had asked about the role of deacons, and she quipped, “Oh, I’ve figured out how to spot which ones are the deacon wives.” Curiously, I took the bait. “How?” “They’re the ones with the scowls on their faces!” My heart sank. As I sat there, picturing the deacon wives that she had met, I realized that their faces did hold a permanent frown! Janet didn’t know their kind hearts and loving ways. She merely saw their outward appearance. The next time I was with them, I related that sad story, and challenged them to smile.

Scripture challenges us to “Be joyful always” I Thessalonians 5:16.

As a deacon wife, set the pace for joy at your church. Does your countenance convey joy? Does your family and church know that you have joy? Do you do God’s work with joy? Do your words reflect joy?

Speak positive words. It was a weekly phenomenon. After Sunday morning worship, I’d stand beside my pastor/husband, and we’d greet worshippers as they departed the service. One person would say, “Pastor, we need to turn that air conditioning down. It was sweltering in there today.” The very next person in line would comment, “I nearly froze to death in there!” Many complaints have little to do with eternity. Is it really worth launching a campaign to argue about carpet color or the arrangement of furniture? Don’t be the constant complainer.

A constant complainer reflects poorly on her God. She deters friends. She hurts her witness and her integrity. If you’ve developed a habit of complaining at home or at church, change that habit! John put it succinctly:“Stop complaining among yourselves.” John 6:43.

Christians have something to smile about. The God of our universe has written our names on his hand. (Isaiah 49:16). He cares intimately for us. He knows every detail about us, right down to the number of hairs on our head. (Luke 12:7). He’s promised us a life “more abundant!” John 10:10. Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. So smile.” (END OF QUOTE)

Now ladies,

I know first hand that smiling is not always easy…. As you can see…. I use a cane and sometimes a wheel chair….

A few years ago, I winced in pain and often when I got up from a chair or bent over and I would even groan out loud.

One of my young grandsons said, “Grandma, you scare me when you do that.”   Since that time I have prayed much that God would give me victory over whining and complaining and even showing pain on my face. I have to admit at times – not very successfully

I realized if this bothered a child perhaps this also would affect others around me in the church ministry.  I prayed and asked the Lord to forgive me and help me to show the JOY that I have in serving Him in such a way that it would be contagious to others. 

For over sixty years I have enjoyed that honor of “Singing His Praise”, and I have loved the ministry of music but in the past few years singing has become painful for me too and this truly has been the hardest thing for me to give up.

But, I praise the Lord that little by little He is helping me to say that I am “Still Singing HIs Praise in My Heart”.  He has not changed.  His love for me has not changed.  The song for Him is still inside of me.  Often I still start to sing around the house but have to stop after a line or two.

Can you say that you have JOY in your heart and does it show on your face….. Pray about this. This leads me to my second point.  Really this is your most important ministry.

# 2 Prayer

I have learned that praying about everything is the most important thing we ladies can do for the honor and glory of the Lord in the church – PRAY.

Now I am not just talking about you personal prayer time and Bible reading what we would call our personal devotions.  That should go without saying.   We of all people should be having our own personal quiet time with the Lord. 

But I find in ministry while serving in the church Sunday School classes, services, at funerals, weddings, picnics. RIGHT – every function of the Lord’s work needs people praying.

I have had people say to me I didn’t get to talk with you today because (fill in the blank)  you were playing the piano,  you were talking to those new people….or you were busy.   Right – doing the Lord’s work.

We need to be above that….   Call your pastor or his wife,  write them and note….. But pray for and with them as they minister. Ultimately you too will be doing ministry with an understanding heart.

How to pray for the Lord’s work in HIS ministry..

Pastor & His wife (filling of the spirit, wisdom &   strength), Deacons & wives, Church Officers(clerk, treasurer, Music leaders, cleaners, decorators, tech. Support people, etc.) when things aren’t going the way that you think they should  – PRAY

Winning the lost to Christ, Evangelism by each Christian in the church by name and their daily witness and life for Christ – PRAY

During the service when you see or hear a young mother struggling with her baby or young child, if something goes wrong causes a distraction in the service that could be distracting, for the pastor, the soloist or musicians, for those running the sound system. What a privilege we have to have immediate access to the Heavenly Father. He is able to solve those problems in a moment – PRAY

For our young people in the worship service, for an attentive heart and the Holy Spirits work in their lives. – PRAY

For our college and career age for direction and obedience to HIS will. -PRAY

For parents whose lives are filled with activities, their jobs and children’s lives that they will be able to accept God’s will for them. –PRAY

For those sitting around you as you participate with JOY in the service. -PRAY

Just think of the power of  PRAYER  scattered all around in the various ministries in God’s church.

What a  privilege to be a part of that heritage

#3 I would encourage all of you to memorize I Cor. 13….

Smile and Pray & Hide God’s Word in your heart.

Listen to this paraphrase from The Living Bible

1 Corinthians 13 Living Bible (TLB)

13:1  If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise.

If I had the gift of prophecy and knew all about what is going to happen in the future, knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would it do? Even if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, I would still be worth nothing at all without love.

If I gave everything I have to poor people, and if I were burned alive for preaching the Gospel but didn’t love others, it would be of no value whatever.

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud,

never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.

It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.

If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.

All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever. Someday prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge—these gifts will disappear.

Now we know so little, even with our special gifts, and the preaching of those most gifted is still so poor.

10 But when we have been made perfect and complete, then the need for these inadequate special gifts will come to an end, and they will disappear.

11 It’s like this: when I was a child I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I became a man my thoughts grew far beyond those of my childhood, and now I have put away the childish things.

12 In the same way, we can see and understand only a little about God now, as if we were peering at his reflection in a poor mirror; but someday we are going to see him in his completeness, face-to-face. Now all that I know is hazy and blurred, but then I will see everything clearly, just as clearly as God sees into my heart right now.

13 There are three things that remain—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

Living Bible (TLB)

Intercessory Prayer And Waiting On The Lord

In 1996 while Ken and I were in ministry in Michigan one of our dear ladies asked us to call on her brother who had a terminal illness. After calling a few times Ken had the wonderful privilege of leading his wife Lily to receive Christ as her Lord and Savior. Then a few months later her husband also trusted Christ as his Savior. After he went to be with the Lord the wife came faithfully to the S.S. but due to her poor health and inability to get around easily she was not able to join the church but was faithful and loved the Lord. Eventually she was house bond and for several years confined to her bed.

In 2007-2008 we had moved to Ohio to a ministry south of Zanesville, OH in Zion. We loved the people and the ministry and I especially enjoyed the little back porch where I had my swing (a gift from my parents). The porch was in the shade almost the whole day and I spent many hours crocheting and reading. I also started my “Chats With the Pastor’s Wife” on this site.

We often corresponded with Lily and she was very faithful to write, send birthday wishes and prayers for us and our ministry.

One afternoon the phone rang in the parsonage and it was Lily. She was excited and asking us if we thought we would be interested in a job that was available at the little retirement Village where she lived and where we had called on her many times.

The job consisted of an opening for a “sitter” at the village there in Michigan and she described it as “being responsible for setting up and managing the emergency phone system. which included our housing in exchange for our services”. This necessitated our having a key to access the apartments of the residents in times of emergency.

We were happy where we were in Ohio and loved the folk there and had no thoughts of leaving there and so we thanked Lily and told her that we would pray about it and that we would get back with her soon.

Ken and I talked it over and prayed about it and had pretty much decided to turn it down. and dismissed it from our minds and a short time. Then we began to think that we should consult with our children. We really did not wish to retire from the ministry but we also realized that it was quite a hardship for the children to come so far to visit us and they were concerned about our advancing years and some health issues that Ken was having at the time.

We the children an email asking for their advice and in no time we received emails back from them all saying that they felt it would be a nice thing for us and it would be a somewhat central location for them to come to visit us and visa versa. Prior to our moving to Ohio they had all let it be know that if we every needed a place to stay we were welcome in their homes.

We contacted Lily and she put us in touch with the management. After a few interviews on the phone, our back ground checks, an agreement that we would be available pretty much around the clock, and that we would want to be able to be free to attend church twice on Sundays and prayer meeting on Wednesday nights we set up an appointment to be interviewed. We were hired and arrangements were made for us to move in July 2008.

We began sorting our belongings, threw away or gave away many of our treasured items since we would be moving to a one bedroom apartment in the village. When we arrived we had to rent a storage place because to still had too much “stuff”. Over a period of a month we were able to persuade some of the children to take some things off our hands and fit a few things into the apartment.

The day after we moved in we were scheduled to go with the providers of the “alert phone system” and show us how to program them. I stayed in the apartment while Ken ran when with the service man and each time the program one of forty phones the phone would ring in the apartment which I would answer to confirm that it was working. In the intervening times about every 10-20 minutes I was trying to get settled and unpacked.

Of course we were all happy because her apartment was right across the street from ours.

Many times while we lived there we were able to go over and visit and have a time of prayer and devotion with Lily… I often would pray with or sing to her.

While we worked there we also had opportunity to volunteer our services distributing the monthly and quarterly commodities (which got to be quite a job in itself), I loved doing it as far as the paperwork and interaction and friendship with the other volunteers but it was way to hard on me physically.

Also, when the alert phones rang in our apartment we would respond and determine whether an ambulance was needed. We were not required to help them physically but at times it would be something that we could do for them (such as their phone needed maintenance or their was a strange sound in the apartment) and often serious emergency needs which required our calling 911 and open the apartment for them to enter. We helped with holiday meals for the residents and I also worked for a time in the office answering the phone.

Being there for 22 months we met a lot of dear folk and established some lasting friendships and of course found the need to pray for many of them and considered it an honor to pray for them and do little errand or acts of love as you would in any neighborhood.

We were especially concerned for one lady who was very limited and had many needs We tried to be neighborly and encouraging to her and we were also concerned because she needed the Lord in her life. I would stop in and Ken would check on her often to make sure that she was o.k., since she had fallen several times and was not able to help herself.

I volunteered to start a Bible Study in the community room and several of the ladies attended. One of the ladies (Jenny) who attended the Bible study was a member of the South Litchfield Baptist Church and they were in need of someone to preach for them while looking for a pastor. She knew that Ken preached at several surrounding churches to fill in for area pastors. She gave the pulpit committee Ken’s number and we were contacted. and in September of 2009 he filled the pulpit for the first time and several times after that until January when they asked him to be interim pastor.

During this time Lily’s health was deteriorating rapidly and her family made the decision to begin to make the arrangements to move her to a nursing home in the Fort Wayne area where she would be closer to her son.

As things progressed at the church they decided to call Ken as their pastor and he gave his notice at the village and Lily moved to Fort Wayne about one week before we moved to the parsonage.

The one lady that we tried to help and prayed much for was moved recently to a nursing home and when we heard of it Ken began including her in his calls to the nursing homes.

This past Tuesday, when he called on her after three years of prayers she trusted Christ as her personal Savior sweetly praying in her own words to receive Christ.

The Lord used Doris who was concerned for her brother’s spiritual needs and prayed and asked the pastor to call on him.

Donald & Lily trusted Christ because of those faithful prayers and concern.

God used Lily to be instrumental to bring us back to this area, in His wisdom he used Jenny to share with the pulpit committee of our availability and now here we are involved in the ministry to which he has obviously lead us.

We have had the privilege of ministering with this dear congregation for two years since Ken first filled the pulpit until now and we have grown to love them. We are so happy in the service of the King and so thankful for his wonderful provision of a place to serve him.

Wait on the LORD… He is in control and knows so well what is best for each of us. Thank you Lord.

ISAIAH 40:31

“They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.”

I Thessalonians 5:17
“Pray without ceasing”




Listen to Higher Ground

Still Singing His Praise – PROVERBS 2:3-5 “If you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God.”

This is my choice of Scripture for 2011…. and my song is “Higher Ground”

Each New Year, as many do, I like to think about what I want to happen in my life.

The Lord has burdened me for the lost and I would love to win some souls to HIM this year…..

I have selected the above Scriptures and Hymn for part of my goals for this year.

There are so many around us who need the LORD in their lives. Even some who profess Christ as their Saviour, yet deep in their hearts they know that they need to draw closer to HIM and be more faithful and obedient to HIM.

Are you reading the Word of God every day and are you praying for guidance every hour of the day? Are you attending a church where the Word of God is preached faithfully?

My personal desire is to point others to Christ. Either to introduce them to the LORD or help those who know him to grow and love serving HIM daily in a way the they too will ultimately win others to HIM.

Perhaps you have stress or anxieties that you deal with and that gets in the way of your faithfulness and obedience to God.

Let me pray for you. Leave a comment.

Those who are reading this and know the LORD, please pray with me concerning lost souls and that I may win those with whom I come in contact.

I do not want to put a number down because I do not want to limit myself nor the work of the Holy Spirit in lives.

So, I am praying for many lives to be brought to a saving knowledge of Christ or a closer walk with HIM in 2011 because of my witness.







ISAIAH 26:3 – 4
by Jane A Pierpont 8-27-10

(I wrote this little poem to give with the “Thimble Hats” that I crochet for my dear friends. See the link on this site. http://jane.wpatch.com/2008/11/17/crocheted-thimble-hat-needle-holder/)


Today is the Lord’s day we spent it in the most normal way for us since our move here on the 17th.

Our furniture is fairly well placed, thanks to our children and grand-children and their commitment to help us with their youth and strong backs. We still have somethings in storage which we are struggling to fit in or part with. This is probably the most difficult thing right now.

We are praying for the Lord to direct us to a place to worship and serve Him. Though we are retired we still have a great desire to be faithful in His service as He gives us strength

We had the privilege of visiting the First Baptist Church of Litchfield, MI which is right in the center of our little city and we were truly blessed in the services.

We were blessed today by the ministry of a missionary who was home on furlough. Eric Schrock, who was raised in the church, with his wife Lily (a native Romanian) and their little girl, presented their slide presentation of their ministry in the Sunday School hour and preached a strong message on “Counterfeit Christianity” in the evening service.

We are praying for God’s direction and wisdom in the future days.

We claim the promise “….All things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

Psalm 37:25
I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.

Isn’t God good.

I close tonight with a hymn we sang in the service today.

“I’d Rather Have Jesus”


In the last year my dear husband and I had the trauma and adventure of moving and scaling down our belongings from an eight room to a five room house.

Yes, when we were young and first started out in the ministry I loved the “Adventures in Moving” including the U-Haul truck or trailer, seeing how the Lord provided little things for us like reaching into the curtain boxes and finding just the right type and color of curtains for the right number of windows in each room. The joy of meeting new friends in Christ and new avenues of ministry. Yet, missing the ministry and friend of the previous work

This Sunday with tears we shared with our people here that we believe it has come time for us to retire and move to a small retirement village in Michigan, not to far from our previous ministry at Jonesville, where we believe the Lord has opened up a place.
The people were so sweet and understanding and encouraging.

Ken will be a key person on the night shift in exchange for our housing in a very nice small apartment. It has recently been completely redecorated with all new appliances. It is just across the street from one of our sweet ladies that Ken and I have called on, who attended the Jonesville church until she became house bound. She is the person who referred us to the job there at the Friendship Village in Litchfield, MI.

At this stage in our life now, this is definitely not what we would call “Adventures in Moving” even though we are still using the tried and true biggest white truck they have.
I just pray that we can get all of our saved treasures tucked into our little place.

Now we are at it again and this time it is a different step in our lives. Scaling down again and parting with dear treasures gained in fifty years of ministry. The treasures consist of four file cabinets of sermon materials, pamphlets and articles in his “Memory-O-Matic” file system (before the computer age). for Ken and two files of music, teaching materials, flannel-graph materials and a five drawer “Simplicity” file of crafts and cassette accompaniment tapes and two three drawer “McCall’s files of yarn and sewing supplies (used in my sewing business) complete with an upholstered board on top for a cutting table, and five sewing machines. Between the two of us Ken and I have seven bookcases with approximately 1,500 books.

I donated my two commercial sewing machine prior to our last move to the Wycliffe Bible translators in Florida where Ken’s brother Bill and his wife, Billie ministered for the past few years)

Today both of us went through our closets and tried to be realistic and parted with a lot of clothes which in the past we felt we could not do with out.

Several times I would take an item and put in in the trash, take it out, put it in the pile for a charitable organization, take it out again. One such item was a sweet little plaque that the pastor’s grandson had given me at the Christian school where we taught, with eight adorable baby kittens in decoupage on a little piece of wood. That little boy grew to be a teenager and was struck and killed by a truck while mowing the lawn. I have treasured that little plague for years and of course there are many more things just like that, so hard to let go.

But, our greatest treasures we do not have to let go. The wonderful memories of our ministry and the dear friends we have from Oklahoma, Kansas, Ohio, Illinois, Indiana to Michigan.

In all of our years of ministry there has never been a time when we have been without.

Psalm 37:25
I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.

Our precious Lord has met our every need and many of our wants. There is not enough ink to write all the wonderful joys and heartaches of the ministry, the strength that the Lord gives through hardship and trials, the wonderful joy of leading someone to the saving knowledge of Christ as Savior and seeing the Saints grow in grace and knowledge of their faith.

My prayer today is, as we are trying to accept our limitations of increasing age and decreasing health that we will have a sweet spirit of love for one another and those to whom the Lord allows us to minister in our everyday lives. That we will not use that weakness as an excuse to become bitter or lax in our total commitment to You and that we will honor You in all that we do.



My heart is aching today….

Yesterday, we attended the memorial service for a young man who took his own life…

My heart aches for the dear parents, siblings, friends and acquaintances.

The preacher was an uncle of the young man and did a superb job as he attempted to help us all to deal with such a difficult situation.

One of the first things he said was, “I can see satan’s finger prints are all over this situation.” “It is a WAR right here.” “Satan is telling us it is our fault, that we failed in some way. We should have done this or that. We could have been a better parent, friend, Sunday school teacher, pastor, etc.”

I personally was especially reminded of the fact that “satan, the Prince of the Power of the Air”

Ephesians 2:2 (KJV)

“Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience.”

is truly doing all that he can to cause Christians to doubt, for young people to make wrong choices as they begin to make their own decisions.

I see it in the Church- satan wants to cause us to get our minds off the Saviour and to cause us to find fault and complain and whine. I have seen it in the past in our ministries and others. The church that is in the building program and excited about the growth of the ministry will become attacked by satan to cause the people to disagree and fuss. The choir that is “Singing His Praise” may began to have devisions,.. why doesn’t the choir leader give me a lead part? Why are the practices so long? I don’t like to wear robes! He is singing off key. You name it… satan does it and our song is lost.

Oh what a joy it is to see people serving the Lord faithfully and keeping their minds on the Saviour, no mater what.

Isaiah 26:3 “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee.”

Lord, Help me to keep my mind on YOU and your will and make a difference in the lives of those around me. Lord, help me to not be critical or judgmental and help me to remember to Pray more for my brothers and sisters in Christ. Father, help us all to have victory over satan’s tricks and attempts to steal our JOY.

Yes, I know that ‘satan’ is a proper name, but I have a hard time giving him that honor, yet I truly believe he is real and alive today in our homes and churches.

I Peter 5:8 “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: ”

“Oh,Victory In Jesus”