DECEMBER 6, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart  … Pastor’s Help Mate

DECEMBER 6, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart  … Pastor’s Help Mate

IT IS YOUR CHOICE….

I Choose Love…

No occasion justifies hatred; no injustice warrants bitterness. I choose love. Today I will love God and what God loves.

I Choose Joy…

I will invite my God to be the God of circumstance. I will refuse the temptation to be cynical. I will refuse to see people as anything less than human beings, created by God. I will refuse to see any problem as anything less than an opportunity to see God.

I Choose Peace…

I will live forgiven. I will forgive so I may live.

I Choose Patience…

I will overlook the inconveniences of the world. Instead of cursing the one who takes my place, I’ll invite him to do so, Rather complain that the wait is too long, I will thank God for a moment to pray. Instead of clenching my fist at new assignments, I will face them with joy and courage.

I Choose Kindness…

I will be kind to the poor, for they are alone. Kind to the rich, for they are afraid. And kind to the unkind, for that is how God has treated me.

I Choose Goodness…

I will go without a dollar before I take a dishonest one. I will be overlooked before I will boast. I will confess before I accuse. I choose goodness.

I Choose Faithfulness…

Today I will keep my promises. My debtors will not regret their trust. My friends will not question my word. And my family will not question my love.

I Choose Gentleness…

Nothing is won by force. I choose to be gentle. If I raise my voice may it only be in praise. If I clench my fist, may it only be in prayer. If I make a demand, may it be only of myself.

I Choose Self-Control…

I refuse to let what will rot, rule the eternal. I choose self-control. I will be drunk only by joy. I will be impassioned only by my faith. I will be influenced only by God. I will be taught only by Christ. I choose self-control.

Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control. To these, I commit my day (Gal. 5:22-23).  If I succeed, I will give thanks. If I fail, I will seek His grace. And then when this day is done I will place my head on my pillow and rest

-Max Lucado

—jane.wpatch.com

November 22, 2015 Melony Evans’ Heart to Heart

This article is from  Jane’s Daughter, Melony Evans

 Studying Esther, we think about how sweet, precious Esther was taken to live in the harem of a wicked king. Think how her Uncle Mordecai must have felt when this beautiful, pure, innocent Jewish girl was taken from her home. His heart must have been breaking. How could something so unthinkable happen?

When Esther was then faced with the certain fate of her people and herself she asked her people to fast and pray. They fasted. They prayed. They waited. Then Esther goes before the king. She could have been killed for going without being summoned but we see that God’s hand was protecting her. There are many times in the story of Esther where we see God working in a quiet, behind the scene sort of way.

The truth is that many times God works in our lives in a quiet sort of way. He doesn’t change time or send lightning from heaven or speak in an audible voice. He does what He does. He moves in heart of people around us.

God is at work in our lives everyday in countless, unseen ways that we may never recognize.

Remember God is totally in control. We are never outside of His care. He always loves us unconditionally. He never loves us less, even when we are not listening to His voice or obeying Him.  He loves us with everlasting love.

The Father above has a wonderful plan for your life. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the thoughts that I think for you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Consecrate each day to God before your feet touch the floor.

Take time to read His word looking for His directives to you. You won’t have to read for hours. It may only take a few minutes to read a chapter or two. Before you read, ask the Lord to make His Word clear to you.

Psalm 113:1 –  

Praise ye the LORD. Praise, O ye servants of the LORD, praise the name of the LORD.

Proverbs 3:5&6 ” Trust in the LORD with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding; in all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

Studying Esther, we think about how sweet, precious Esther was taken to live in the harem of a wicked king. Think how her Uncle Mordecai must have felt when this beautiful, pure, innocent Jewish girl was taken from her home. His heart must have been breaking. How could something so unthinkable happen?

When Esther was then faced with the certain fate of her people and herself she asked her people to fast and pray. They fasted. They prayed. They waited. Then Esther goes before the king. She could have been killed for going without being summoned but we see that God’s hand was protecting her. There are many times in the story of Esther where we see God working in a quiet, behind the scene sort of way.

The truth is that many times God works in our lives in a quiet sort of way. He doesn’t change time or send lightning from heaven or speak in an audible voice. He does what He does. He moves in heart of people around us.

God is at work in our lives everyday in countless, unseen ways that we may never recognize.

Remember God is totally in control. We are never outside of His care. He always loves us unconditionally. He never loves us less, even when we are not listening to His voice or obeying Him.  He loves us with everlasting love.

The Father above has a wonderful plan for your life. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the thoughts that I think for you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Consecrate each day to God before your feet touch the floor.

Take time to read His word looking for His directives to you. You won’t have to read for hours. It may only take a few minutes to read a chapter or two. Before you read, ask the Lord to make His Word clear to you.

Psalm 113:1 

Praise ye the LORD. Praise, O ye servants of the LORD, praise the name of the LORD.

Proverbs 3:5&6 ” Trust in the LORD with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding; in all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

God’s Response to Us vs. Our Response to HIM

God’s Response to Us vs. Our Response to HIM

November 10, 2015

I posted this in my Face Book Study Group today of Cynthia Heald’s book, “Intamacy with God – In the Psalms  Chapter 6.

This chapter is about how responsive God is and that is such a blessing in which we all benefit.

I would like to respond to pg. 44 The God Who Answers. 

Question 1: We can certainly depend on that… 34: 4-6  “I cried to the Lord in may suffering and he heard me and set me free.”

Question 2: 107:7 Safety, v.8, rebelled, yet HE rescued,  v. 9, Satisfies ,showers compassion, v.13, Gracious in all he does.

Question 3:  What about our response?  There is a condition, necessary for God’s response to us.

Question 4: Is God unresponsive?  Read Ps. 88 slowly again?

This is what I want to comment on.

When we call out to Christ for help we must ask and expect Him to hear and respond, Yes!

But we also must admit our wrongdoing and be ready to do what He asks.

Have we examined our own heart?  Are we willing to change?

I see people on the news responding by demonstrating instead of Praying or living themselves obedient Christian lives.

In that regard, I often think of all the controversy that is going on in our world today. We Christians need to cry out for His response, Yes. I believe that  our response needs to be after we have prayed and confessed our own short comings.

Bible reading in the schools — are we reading God’s Word Daily ourselves and are our children being taught the principles of the 10 commandments.  (often I hear a response of sinful revenge and condemnation of others rather than teaching children to pray for the bully, or pray for the teacher, president or leader who is teaching lies.)

I am sorry to say this and indeed I pray a lot about this, but In our churches i overhear an attitude of complaining and whining about our Christian mistreatment instead of concern for the lost all around us.

Prayer in school— how much time are we Christians praying at home. Make a list.

Criticism of businesses who do not use the words Merry Christmas or play Christian music – – how much Christian music do we play in our homes.  Do you regularly listen to Christian Radio or TV.

For many years I have been bothered about the words “Merry” Christmas and began saying Have a Blessed Christmas.   I never said anything to anyone before about it because I feel this is not important.  Personally feel that there is far to much “merry” making and not enough Worship of Christ on the season to commemorate His birth. But, we don’t need to labor that point. 

WE NEED TO GIVE THE GOSPEL.

Yet, still I do not want to make THIS an issue to the public, because  until one truly knows Christ and starts reading His Word and serving Him obediently, according to the Scriptures this is not the message they need to hear.

Governments and schools who omit the “10 Commandments”, “in God we trust”,  and “under God”, are not the problem.

The problem is “We Christians” are holding the lost to a standard they will not understand until they repent and receive Christ and, Yes, grow in HIM.

Bottom Line…… this is just for you ladies who know Christ and are demonstrating a desire to study HIS WORD and honor Him with every moment of every day.

We, who know Christ, need to be spending our time and energy, on giving out the GOSPEL, instead of promoting causes, or seeing how many things we “Like” or don’t like on FB or in this world around us.

I am so convicted about this, personally…. Perhaps our next Bible Study should consist of ways to win souls for Christ.

Never before has church attendance been lower and churches are dying around us for lack of winning other to Christ and for lack of discipling  our own children.

Please excuse my long message and Yes, I am speaking  to each of us ladies that we will get busy and give out the most positive information available to us.  That is the Word of God and His Love for the Lost.

I want to Challenge each of you this next year of 2016 to began using your social media to give the Gospel in Response to God’s Sacrificial  love for us.

What is the Gospel?   Please read Matthew 28:16-20 and read Deuteronomy 6:4-9 and begin to plan for 2016.

Read those passages several times…. then do this.

  1. Set your signature in your email and letters you write and send in snail mail with a Scripture truth about the Gospel.
  2. Pray and Ask the Lord to show you what to do on Social Media to spread the Gospel.
  3. Get some gospel tracts to put into you correspondence, bills, thank you notes. ( yes, give them to Christians too and suggest that they give them to someone who needs Christ.).
  4. Make list of people you witness to, date, response, etc. and record growth… and be sure to disciple them.
  5. Make a little by line that will help people remember you and that you love Christ.(….example…. Mine was….Singing His Praise!  and now I changed it to Still Singing His Praise in My Heart. since I am not able to sing out loud).

Thank you ladies for reading and prayerfully accepting this challenge as your response to GOD.

Still Singing His Praise in my Heart

Jane A Pierpont

OCTOBER 25, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART       …PASTOR’S HELP MATE

OCTOBER 25, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART       …PASTOR’S HELP MATE

Ps. 71:22-24 KJV,   22 I will also praise thee with the psaltery, even thy truth, O my God: unto thee will I sing with the harp, O thou Holy One of Israel.  23 My lips shall greatly rejoice when I sing unto thee; and my soul, which thou hast redeemed.  24 My tongue also shall talk of thy righteousness all the day long: for they are confounded, for they are brought unto shame, that seek my hurt.

A few years ago I began to develop dysphonia and of course it has affected my ability to sing. I have shared before but some of you are new that I have always signed all my correspondence ” Singing His Praise” and now I sign with “Still Singing His Praise in my Heart”.

I have determined in my Heart to continue to lift my Heart in praise for His Glory. On Sunday morning when the songs are sung, I begin to sing very softly and am able to sing about three lines and then I have to stop, for the pain, severe ache in my throat, but then I just mouth the words so that I will not be a bad testimony and truly try to think of the words in my heart as if I were singing them JOYOUSLY.

Now that I am teaching Kid’s Chapel I cannot sing at all so that I will have enough voice to speak in chapel…. It isn’t the broken voice that causes me to stop, but the pain. I say all this, not to bring sympathy, because I can not cease to Praise the Lord for the many years He has allowed me to use my voice for His Glory as He allowed me to sing un-numbered solos and teach others to sing in private voice lessons and choirs in our churches and Christian Schools.

I share this to emphasize  and help us to comprehend God’s righteous affect on our lives.    Yes, I rebelled, and I cried out to God, I had some bitterness and I was hurt. But through his GRACE, I determined not to be a “wimpy, whiney woman”, or as I say “gave myself a swift kick” and strive to “get over it” and “let it go”.

Ps. 109:30-31 (KJV)  30 I will greatly praise the Lord with my mouth; yea, I will praise him among the multitude.31 For he shall stand at the right hand of the poor, to save him from those that condemn his soul.

We can know He is standing with us in every attempt we make to honor Him in every weakness and other areas in which we struggle.

Psalm 73:24 24 “Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory.”

-jane.wpatch.com.

October 11, 2015  Jane’s Heart to Heart …Pastor’s Help Mate

October 11, 2015  Jane’s Heart to Heart …Pastor’s Help Mate

Making Sure That You Know You Are Ready When the Lord Comes.

When inquiring of people where they are with the Lord we often get many different responses.

I did that when I was a child,  when I attended ____ church or release time class, yet each one did not sound confident in his standing with the Lord.

-Many say I did that at VBS or just I used to go to VBS in the summer.

-My uncle is a preacher, my mother taught me all that…

-I was baptized when I was _____ yet they don’t sound sure.

-I used to go to church.

-I did that at release time class but still they are uncertain in their response.

In most of those cases they remembered something in their past but did not sound confident in their stand with the Lord.

If you  aren’t sure it could be because, since you made that decision you were not  taught clearly what being saved really means.

Perhaps when you were discipled, you personally did not carry through with those steps of obedience and turn away from sin and disobedience.

How can you have confidence  in your salvation?

Tell the Lord that you want to KNOW that you are saved. Confess known sin to the Lord. Go to a strong Bible preaching church, be baptized and join that church, read your Bible daily, and pray, which is just talking to the Lord. Confessing any daily sin and being determined to go on from there and not continually live a life of sin. Ask God daily to help you when you are  tempted to sin.

You might say how do I know what to do or not to do?  Seek godly counsel from a pastor another Christian person in the church, attend church and listen intently to the preaching.

Claim God’s promises.  Open your Bible to John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son (by death on the Cross) that whosoever (you and me, everyone) believeth on Him, should not perish, but have everlasting life.”     What kind of life _________________?  That is right everlasting life.

Once you know Christ, the first thing you need to do is tell someone that you have given you life to Christ and then do what you can every day to win someone else to Christ by being a witness.   What is a witness?  That is when you tell others what Christ has done for you and then that HE will do the same for them.

If you are fearful of saying the right thing ask the pastor or myself for a simple gospel tract to carry with you to share the Gospel and don’t give that one away.  Keep it and make a list of people you have led to Christ.

What is the Gospel?   Read the Scripture below from Matthew thoughtfully.

Have you ever had the privilege of leading some to Christ to be saved. If so raise your hands.

Now I am speaking especially to the children and young people today.  When you think about what you are going to do when you become an adult, first ask the Lord what He wants you to do and I am sure it will have something to do with spreading the Gospel.    

— jane.wpatch.com

Matthew 28:

16 Then the eleven disciples went away into Galilee, into a mountain where Jesus had appointed them.

17 And when they saw him, they worshipped him: but some doubted.

18 And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth.

19 Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:

20 Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

Once you have receive Christ as your Saviour then the Great Commision above is your responsibility.  Go and tell others and lead them to Christ.

Here is a song that we do not want to be true of us as Christians.

 NO FRUIT FOR THE MASTER

  1. Jesus was traveling a dusty highway.

When in the Distance he saw a fig tree.

But drawing closer oh what did He see,

Nothing, Nothing but leaves.

Chorus:

No fruit for the Master

Nothing but leaves.

No Fruit for the Master See how He grieves

How many ther are who although they believe,

Have nothing, Nothing but leaves.

2.  Fruitless and barren they stand like that tree

Receiving his blessing so rich and so free.

But as Christ sees them He only can see.

Nothing, Nothing but leaves.

Chorus:

3.  Friend, ’tis a warning to you and to me

Are we as barren as that old fig tree?

And when the master looks down does he see.

Nothing, Nothing but leaves?

Chorus

***********

The fruit in our lives is those whom we influence to follow Christ…

Let us not be with out fruit.

Matthew 21:19

And when he saw a fig tree in the way, he came to it, and found nothing thereon, but leaves only, and said unto it, Let no fruit grow on you again forever. And presently the fig tree withered away.

August 8, 2015    Encouraging Words….

August 8, 2015 Encouraging Words….

Are you going through trials of many kinds….

James 1:2-4    Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials,   3. knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.   4. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

Let me leave with you an encouraging word from   Amy Carmichael’s words….

today.

 

Hast Thou No Scar 

by Amy Carmichael

Hast thou no scar?
No hidden scar on foot, or side, or hand?
I hear thee sung as mighty in the land,
I hear them hail thy bright ascendant star,
Hast thou no scar?

Hast thou no wound?
Yet, I was wounded by the archers, spent.
Leaned me against the tree to die, and rent
By ravening beasts that compassed me, I swooned:
Hast thou no wound?

No wound? No scar?
Yet as the Master shall the servant be,
And pierced are the feet that follow Me;
But thine are whole. Can he have followed far
Who has no wound nor scar?

Philippians 1:29, “For to you it has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake.”

2 Timothy 3:12, “Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.”

II Corinthians 12:9-10   “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness. Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me…. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

 

June 14, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   … Pastor’s Help Mate

June 14, 2015 Jane’s Heart to Heart … Pastor’s Help Mate

PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND

(CHURCH LEADERS, SONS, GRANDSONS ETC.)

https://www.reviveourhearts.com/media/uploads/pdf/articles/31DaysPrayingHusband.pdf

PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND  (CHURCH LEADERS, SONS,  young people, children, etc.)

Nancy DeMoss has a download available for praying for your husband for 31 days. I will refer to just a few of the suggested prayers for your husband. For those who are single women your ministry can be one of prayer for our spiritual leaders and  the young people in the church.

The Apostle Paul instructed all Christians to pray for one another Eph. 6:18 (KJV)  “Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints.”

Earnest prayer for your husband is good for him, for you and the spiritual health of your home.  (Prov. 31:11-12). Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

Trust God through prayer as you daily surrender your husband and marriage to the Lord’s wise, loving care.

Pray that your husband will experience spiritual growth and guard his heart by Bible reading and study, prayer, meditation and scripture memorization. (2 Pet. 3:18  ”But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.” 

 Pray that your husband’s relationship with God and His Word will bear fruit in his life. Pray that he will be wise and God-fearing.   Proverbs 3: 7-8 (NIV) “Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.”

Pray that your husband’s heart will be tender toward the voice of the      Lord. Psalm 51:2-4 (NIV) “Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin.  For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.”

Pray that your husband will love righteousness and hate the evils of todays culture, and avoid it. Proverbs 27:12 (NIV) “The prudent see danger and take refuge,  but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.”

–  Pray that his heart will be pure and undivided in his commitment to you.  Romans 13:14  (NIV)” Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.”

Ladies, You have a ministry,  a “Great Commission” trough Prayer.  The prayer’s suggested in Nancy’s Challenge to pray for your husbands could fit anyone you are praying for with just a few minor alterations. Let’s be prayer warriors.  All of us, for everyone.

jane.wpatch.com

June 7, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help Mate

June 7, 2015   Jane’s Heart to Heart   …Pastor’s Help Mate

Last week we covered the importance of Praying for Your Husband….This week I want to talk about   PRAYERS FOR YOU, THE WIFE.  I want to read some suggested prayers today for you to pray before you begin your task of praying for your husband, leaders, and sons.

It is important that we, dear ladies pray for total surrender to our Lord and Saviour.  I truly believe many of us don’t pray because we do not know what to say.  I have told you before that I have been blessed by reading Scriptures as my prayers.  First you need to search the Scriptures for truths that you truly desire in your heart for yourself as a servant of Christ. If you want to be a servant…”if you want to go up,  go down”  “if you want to be first, be last” get on your knees and pray the verse I recited  last week Ps. 51:10 “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” 

Another prayer that will help you to have a right perspective in your life is to pray the prayer that Christ prayed on the cross….. My what an example that is.  “Abba Father … He said, “Everything is possible for You. Take this cup from me, Yet, not what I will, but what you will.”   That is a hard prayer to pray when you have your heart set on something and really think it is a right thing. When you are in pain and want relief,  when you lose a loved one, or you praying for a prodigal child or perhaps  feeling guilty about something in your past, Lord, Help us to pray aright.

MY version goes like this, “Lord, this is what I want and what I think is right, but if it is not your will, Lord, slam the door hard and turn me around and lead me in the right direction.”

Prayers of Confession: These are important too. Before we can pray for anyone or anything else we must remember, I John 1:9 “ If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”  Now wait, this is written to Christians and it is not license to sin. It is a reminder that when we as Christians do sin we must come to HIM in sorrow and a repentant spirit asking forgiveness and strength to go on  and stop sinning. So when you do just that -confess and forsake – you can claim the victory and have JOY in your life.

Just a little list of sins to confess: Being critical, judgmental, lazy, unbelieving, fearful, gluttonous, unthankful, grumbling, sarcasmtic, resentful, angry, proud, lustful, independent, prayer-less, nagging, time-wasting, gossipy, slanderous, bitter, raging, lying, jealous, procrastinating. Or-perhaps we have not named yours yet, then just ask the Lord to reveal to you areas of sin in your life. Most important is to determine in your heart of hearts to be JOYFUL and praise the Lord for HIS peace and His truth and ask Him to help you to know that you are accepted by Him.  Claim the wonderful promises in His Word and do not allow satan for one moment  to cause you to doubt God’s wonderful love for you and His ability to meet your EVERY need.   

I have been blessed  while preparing these studies May – June by a little book I found on the internet several years ago…by  Lylah Ledner with Women in Touch Ministries. Inc. 1999 and of course my studies with Nancy DeMoss.

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words of Love #2

Prov. 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honey comb,

sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”

The body and soul are in close relationship. We cannot separate them. Sweet kind words will lend help spiritually and physically.

Words of encouragement will lift the spirit and have a true healing affect on the recipient. It is important that we are not just the recipient of encouraging words but the givers.

I cannot explain the joy and encouragement that I receive when someone in our ministry introduces me as “this is our pastor’s wife.”  This spurs me on to a fresh desire to do the job of pastor’s wife even better for God’s glory and honor.

I was studying for this article and the phone rang and it was our sister Becky who wanted help with a hymn arrangement in the Key of C and I mentioned to her that some of the newer hymnals have transposed a lot of the hymns to lower keys because (in my opinion) “people are lazy.”   I stopped….  Ooops!  I am here writing about being encouraging and using positive talk… and I caught myself….being negative…. I should have said, “because people’s voices are lower than in years past.”

By the blessing of the upright a city is exalted” Prov. 11:11a.

Think of someone who needs to be encouraged. Write out your plan  and the words you will use and then put that plan to use. If you don’t have a plan you probably won’t do it.

Prov.10:20  “The tongue of the righteous is choice silver.”

We ladies tend to be more verbal so we need to guard our tongues. There are over 100 references to the tongue in the Proverbs.  And there are twelve of them which refer to the heart.  How do we get tongues of righteousness? By being connected to the source of wisdom, the Scriptures, the Word of God.  The heart that is bathed in the Word of God will come forth with rich words of silver, highly refined. Thus our tongue will flow with words that are of superior quality. Help us Lord.          

We will not need to use negative comments, minced oaths or slang expressions of crudity. Because we are filled with the Holy Spirit. He will give us the words to say out of hearts of love.  “Thy word have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against Thee.”  Ps. 119:11      <www.jane.wpatch.com>

JANUARY 16, 2015… AS GIVEN TO THE DEACONS AND WIVES OF EVANGEL BAPTIST CHURCH (TAYLOR MI)

Introduction:  I can not think of a greater honor than to be able to speak to deacon wives. What a high calling this truly is.

This is not about climbing the social ladder of the church….not an elected office. This is about being a  servant/slave  in service with your life mate as his helpmate and supporting your husbands roll as servant.

“I Timothy 3:11 Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.”

The first qualification of course is that she is a Born again Christian and the one and only wife of a deacon. God has not called to “special service” those who have never answered the gospel call to service!

Have any of you ladies read any of Diana Davis books for Deacon Wives???  Such as… Fresh Ideas for Women’s Ministry

When I speak to ladies I always like to recommend reading materials for them that will help them in their ministry for Christ.

Just to give you a little idea about Diana – She is a deacon’s daughter and a Pastor’s wife, women’s speaker, writer, columnist, and has been the pastor’s wife to anywhere from 2 – 100 deacon wives in the life of their ministry together.

Let me begin with a quote from her book entitled, DEACON WIVES. Published by LifeWay.

(and I quote)   #1 Smile

A joyful heart makes a face cheerful…” Proverbs 15:13a

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 (HCSB)

Got joy?

This story is true. The names have been changed to protect the innocent. I spent time each week discipling Janet, a new Christian. She had asked about the role of deacons, and she quipped, “Oh, I’ve figured out how to spot which ones are the deacon wives.” Curiously, I took the bait. “How?” “They’re the ones with the scowls on their faces!” My heart sank. As I sat there, picturing the deacon wives that she had met, I realized that their faces did hold a permanent frown! Janet didn’t know their kind hearts and loving ways. She merely saw their outward appearance. The next time I was with them, I related that sad story, and challenged them to smile.

Scripture challenges us to “Be joyful always” I Thessalonians 5:16.

As a deacon wife, set the pace for joy at your church. Does your countenance convey joy? Does your family and church know that you have joy? Do you do God’s work with joy? Do your words reflect joy?

Speak positive words. It was a weekly phenomenon. After Sunday morning worship, I’d stand beside my pastor/husband, and we’d greet worshippers as they departed the service. One person would say, “Pastor, we need to turn that air conditioning down. It was sweltering in there today.” The very next person in line would comment, “I nearly froze to death in there!” Many complaints have little to do with eternity. Is it really worth launching a campaign to argue about carpet color or the arrangement of furniture? Don’t be the constant complainer.

A constant complainer reflects poorly on her God. She deters friends. She hurts her witness and her integrity. If you’ve developed a habit of complaining at home or at church, change that habit! John put it succinctly:“Stop complaining among yourselves.” John 6:43.

Christians have something to smile about. The God of our universe has written our names on his hand. (Isaiah 49:16). He cares intimately for us. He knows every detail about us, right down to the number of hairs on our head. (Luke 12:7). He’s promised us a life “more abundant!” John 10:10. Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. So smile.” (END OF QUOTE)

Now ladies,

I know first hand that smiling is not always easy…. As you can see…. I use a cane and sometimes a wheel chair….

A few years ago, I winced in pain and often when I got up from a chair or bent over and I would even groan out loud.

One of my young grandsons said, “Grandma, you scare me when you do that.”   Since that time I have prayed much that God would give me victory over whining and complaining and even showing pain on my face. I have to admit at times – not very successfully

I realized if this bothered a child perhaps this also would affect others around me in the church ministry.  I prayed and asked the Lord to forgive me and help me to show the JOY that I have in serving Him in such a way that it would be contagious to others. 

For over sixty years I have enjoyed that honor of “Singing His Praise”, and I have loved the ministry of music but in the past few years singing has become painful for me too and this truly has been the hardest thing for me to give up.

But, I praise the Lord that little by little He is helping me to say that I am “Still Singing HIs Praise in My Heart”.  He has not changed.  His love for me has not changed.  The song for Him is still inside of me.  Often I still start to sing around the house but have to stop after a line or two.

Can you say that you have JOY in your heart and does it show on your face….. Pray about this. This leads me to my second point.  Really this is your most important ministry.

# 2 Prayer

I have learned that praying about everything is the most important thing we ladies can do for the honor and glory of the Lord in the church – PRAY.

Now I am not just talking about you personal prayer time and Bible reading what we would call our personal devotions.  That should go without saying.   We of all people should be having our own personal quiet time with the Lord. 

But I find in ministry while serving in the church Sunday School classes, services, at funerals, weddings, picnics. RIGHT – every function of the Lord’s work needs people praying.

I have had people say to me I didn’t get to talk with you today because (fill in the blank)  you were playing the piano,  you were talking to those new people….or you were busy.   Right – doing the Lord’s work.

We need to be above that….   Call your pastor or his wife,  write them and note….. But pray for and with them as they minister. Ultimately you too will be doing ministry with an understanding heart.

How to pray for the Lord’s work in HIS ministry..

Pastor & His wife (filling of the spirit, wisdom &   strength), Deacons & wives, Church Officers(clerk, treasurer, Music leaders, cleaners, decorators, tech. Support people, etc.) when things aren’t going the way that you think they should  – PRAY

Winning the lost to Christ, Evangelism by each Christian in the church by name and their daily witness and life for Christ – PRAY

During the service when you see or hear a young mother struggling with her baby or young child, if something goes wrong causes a distraction in the service that could be distracting, for the pastor, the soloist or musicians, for those running the sound system. What a privilege we have to have immediate access to the Heavenly Father. He is able to solve those problems in a moment – PRAY

For our young people in the worship service, for an attentive heart and the Holy Spirits work in their lives. – PRAY

For our college and career age for direction and obedience to HIS will. -PRAY

For parents whose lives are filled with activities, their jobs and children’s lives that they will be able to accept God’s will for them. –PRAY

For those sitting around you as you participate with JOY in the service. -PRAY

Just think of the power of  PRAYER  scattered all around in the various ministries in God’s church.

What a  privilege to be a part of that heritage

#3 I would encourage all of you to memorize I Cor. 13….

Smile and Pray & Hide God’s Word in your heart.

Listen to this paraphrase from The Living Bible

1 Corinthians 13 Living Bible (TLB)

13:1  If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise.

If I had the gift of prophecy and knew all about what is going to happen in the future, knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would it do? Even if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, I would still be worth nothing at all without love.

If I gave everything I have to poor people, and if I were burned alive for preaching the Gospel but didn’t love others, it would be of no value whatever.

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud,

never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.

It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.

If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.

All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever. Someday prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge—these gifts will disappear.

Now we know so little, even with our special gifts, and the preaching of those most gifted is still so poor.

10 But when we have been made perfect and complete, then the need for these inadequate special gifts will come to an end, and they will disappear.

11 It’s like this: when I was a child I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I became a man my thoughts grew far beyond those of my childhood, and now I have put away the childish things.

12 In the same way, we can see and understand only a little about God now, as if we were peering at his reflection in a poor mirror; but someday we are going to see him in his completeness, face-to-face. Now all that I know is hazy and blurred, but then I will see everything clearly, just as clearly as God sees into my heart right now.

13 There are three things that remain—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

Living Bible (TLB)