June 19, 2016  Jane’s Heart to Heart….   Pastor’s Help Mate

Adrian Rogers

“Artificial insemination is the ideal method of producing a pregnancy, and a lesbian partner should have the same parenting rights accorded historically to biological fathers.” Quoted from the United Nations Fourth World Conference on Women, summer of 1995.

You did not see a few isolated reports. There is an international agenda seeking to render fathers legally obsolete. Regardless of their legal success, fathers will always be critical to a healthy society. The United States is becoming overrun with fatherless homes, and suffering the consequences. This epidemic is causing our society to disintegrate and succumb to rampant crime, drug abuse, and poverty.

Fathers are critical to both sons and daughters. Sons need fathers to learn about being a godly man; how to fear God (Proverbs 1:7), have self-control, work hard, and respect women, just to name a few. Try as she might, mom alone will be hard-pressed to teach a son these valuable lessons. For daughters, their entire self-image comes from how they are treated by their fathers. A woman’s relationship with men will likely mirror her relationship with her father. The future of kids, regardless of gender, is firmly anchored in their relationship to their fathers.

Fathers, you have a tremendous responsibility. It’s not just your job to teach children how to become adults. Nearly everything they know about God they will learn from watching you (Acts 16:31). “ Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.”

You are a representative of God, don’t let Him down.

Now for the wives and mothers…

Voice Your Gratitude – say it out loud

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. —Proverbs 31:11–12

Look for His Servant’s Heart

Through love serve one another. —Galatians 5:13

Cultivate Patience toward Your Husband – – Adjust your expectations.  Praise him for the work he does.

Let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands. —Ephesians 4:28

What’s on Your Tongue?—Tell your family why you love your husband.  Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. —Ephesians 4:29

Take Time to Listen   Ladies this is hard… Pray for this.

Be quick to hear, slow to speak. —James 1:19

Demonstrate respect: Part of showing respect includes submission to his authority.

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. —Ephesians 5:22.

  “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior” Eph. 5:23.

Children, Young people, adults….. God’s way is the best way to rebuild our nation…. and that is through obedience to God’s instructions with regard to  Fathers Leading, Wives respecting and Children’s obedience…. and that obedience is learned from the Father, ultimately.

Oh the Joy we can have in our Hearts and our Homes when we follow the Saviour’s instructions.

August 24, 2014 JANE’S HEART TO HEART …PASTOR’S HELPMATE

BE NOT AFRAID…. 

Let me share this story from Elisabeth Elliot’s book, Trusting God in a Twisted World,  Elisabeth, her eighteen month old grandson Walter, and his father decided to go to one of those automatic car washes, which can be a bit scary on the first run-through, even for an adult.  She watched little Walter’s face as the car was drawn into the dark tunnel.  The water suddenly began to roar down over all four sides of the car, and his big eyes got bigger — but went immediately from the windows to the face of his father.  He was too small to understand what it was all about, and he’d had no explanation before hand, yet he knew his Daddy would take care of him.  The giant brushes began to close in, whirling and sloshing, and making a tremendous racket… His eyes darted again to the face of his father.  He was afraid but he didn’t cry. Then the rubber wheel banged down on the wind-shield and the hot air began to blast… Little Walter clung to one thing; he knew His father and he had never given him any reason not to trust him,…When the car finally broke out into sunshine, the little boy’s face broke into a big smile.  Everything was Okay; Daddy knew what he was doing after all.

Are you going through  times you might call, “ a car wash experience?” Like little Walter…. We need to trust the FATHER. We can say with JOY and confidence that He is a faithful God!   He will bring us through.

While living in Evanston, Illinois in 1956, just a few days after Ken and I were married, while I was listening to the WMBI Christian radio station from Moody Bible Institute, they announced the terrible news that five missionaries were killed by the Acua Indians to whom they were seeking to minister.  Elisabeth Elliot was the wife of Jim Elliot, one of those missionaries. As she suffered through this trial the Lord brought to her mind the promise from Isaiah 43: 1-2.  “I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned…. For I am the Lord your God”.  Just a few days later she and her little daughter, Valerie, returned to the mission field to minister to and win many of that tribe to Christ. Think of that! Elisabeth said. “Peace came, not by removal of suffering but through acceptance.”

No matter what dark tunnel we may have, Christ has been there. Faith is not just feeling good about God, but a conscious choice  to obey his Word when he says, “Trust Me”   “..It is by this that we know what love is: that Christ laid down His life for us.” John 3:16

He is the Father,   “Back of the Clouds the Sun is Always Shining.”     “Be Not Afraid”