March 8, 2015 JANE’S HEART TO HEART….. Pastor’s Help Mate

Word’s of Love # 5

In Nancy DeMoss’s Devotional Study – The Power of Words are many gems about the tongue which I have found helpful.

Some of the headings she has used are as follows with the corresponding Scripture truths:

Hold the Tongue –  Prov. 15:28           A Guarded Tongue –  Psalm 141:3

Silence is Golden – Prov. 10:19          Words of Restraint  – Prov. 17:27

Soft Answers    Prov. 15:1

Have you felt a convicting tug on you heart, as I have the last few weeks while presenting Word’s of Love”?  The Bible has been a mirror for us to look at our own need for improvement?   These things do not come to us naturally, but  by His power as we fill our lives with His Word and allow the Holy Spirit to speak wise, kind words through us. Let us not be temped to respond as the world does with vulgarity and taking the Lord’s name in vain.

Psalm 141:3 “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.”  This would indicate that the tongue is dangerous and we need to guard it.  Adrian Rogers said on one of his Sunday AM broadcast , “ Talk less and Bless others.”

The Scriptures describe the tongue as a fire, often we ladies complain because our husband does’t listen to us but perhaps they would listen more attentively if we had less to say and said it with love.

If you have liked this study about Word’s of Love and would like to have Nancy’s book you can go to reviveourhearts.com and see what is available…. CD $16.00, Workbook $6…or I would be willing to order some.

To quote Fenelon in The Seeking Heart,Try to practice silence as much as general courtesy permits. Silence encourages God’s presence, prevents harsh words, and causes you to be less likely to say something you will regret. Silence also helps you put space between you and the world. Out of the silence that you cultivate, you will find strength to meet your needs…..Accept what God chooses for you. This is more important than what you choose for yourself, for you are much too easy on yourself. Day by day give yourself to God. He carries you in His arms like a mother carries her child. Believe, hope, and love like a child. Look with love and trust to your heavenly Father.”

I Peter 3:3-4

Do not let your adorning be external…….. but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Here are a few comment from  our daughter, Melony, who is a mother of eleven children and a pastor’s wife at Bear Lake, MI. She had some good insight on these articles on Words of Love.

She says: I have often said something and  later wondered if I had been offensive when I had no mean thoughts. I was just not sure how what I said had been taken.

I pray that God will change the way the person felt about what was said and that the Lord would erase what I have said from their thinking.

I like to ask God to examine my motives and bring out the best.

 Good Reading on this subject by John Piper…. Desiring God.

Feb. 15 & 22, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart    .. . Pastor’s Help-Mate

Feb. 15 & 22, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart    .. . Pastor’s Help-Mate

Word’s of Love #3

Power and Wisdom from Above

“Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me!” Unfortunately, that childhood refrain couldn’t be further from the truth.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” Philippians 4:8.

We don’t have what it takes to control our tongues.  We need the power and wisdom that comes from above.

Ps. 119:11 “I have stored up your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” We can change our words by changing our hearts.

Luke 6:45  “the good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good…. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”  If we ask the Lord to help us with our words He will convict us when our words do not please Him.  We might say, I didn’t mean that or It just came out, when truthfully  what comes from our mouth is from our heart.

James 2:3 says “We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.”

We need to be honest with ourselves and allow God to transform us by the power of HIS Holy Spirit.  When our hearts are filled with Him, His wisdom and His grace, we will speak in such a way as to bless others.

Merciful Lord, I praise you that we can call out to You when we need Your help to know how important it is to encourage and pray for others.   Help us to confess the wrong of our hurtful words when they really reflect a heart issue.  Help us to be better and not bitter. Give us  repentant hearts. Fill us, Lord, with Your Holy Spirit that our words will be words of love. Help us Father to think of others and how we can encourage and bless them and to forget about ourselves. Thank you Lord for youR forgiveness and blessing and for the JOY that only YOU can give. In Jesus name. Amen.

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Feb, 1, 2015   JANE’S HEART TO HEART            …Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words of Love #2

Prov. 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honey comb,

sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”

The body and soul are in close relationship. We cannot separate them. Sweet kind words will lend help spiritually and physically.

Words of encouragement will lift the spirit and have a true healing affect on the recipient. It is important that we are not just the recipient of encouraging words but the givers.

I cannot explain the joy and encouragement that I receive when someone in our ministry introduces me as “this is our pastor’s wife.”  This spurs me on to a fresh desire to do the job of pastor’s wife even better for God’s glory and honor.

I was studying for this article and the phone rang and it was our sister Becky who wanted help with a hymn arrangement in the Key of C and I mentioned to her that some of the newer hymnals have transposed a lot of the hymns to lower keys because (in my opinion) “people are lazy.”   I stopped….  Ooops!  I am here writing about being encouraging and using positive talk… and I caught myself….being negative…. I should have said, “because people’s voices are lower than in years past.”

By the blessing of the upright a city is exalted” Prov. 11:11a.

Think of someone who needs to be encouraged. Write out your plan  and the words you will use and then put that plan to use. If you don’t have a plan you probably won’t do it.

Prov.10:20  “The tongue of the righteous is choice silver.”

We ladies tend to be more verbal so we need to guard our tongues. There are over 100 references to the tongue in the Proverbs.  And there are twelve of them which refer to the heart.  How do we get tongues of righteousness? By being connected to the source of wisdom, the Scriptures, the Word of God.  The heart that is bathed in the Word of God will come forth with rich words of silver, highly refined. Thus our tongue will flow with words that are of superior quality. Help us Lord.          

We will not need to use negative comments, minced oaths or slang expressions of crudity. Because we are filled with the Holy Spirit. He will give us the words to say out of hearts of love.  “Thy word have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against Thee.”  Ps. 119:11      <www.jane.wpatch.com>

Jan. 25, 2015    Jane’s Heart to Heart ……Pastor’s Help-Mate

Jan. 25, 2015 Jane’s Heart to Heart ……Pastor’s Help-Mate

Words of Love  #1

On August 24, 2000,  a 46 year old woman tossed a burning match onto the ground when she stopped by the road to light a cigarette.  As she confessed later, rather than putting out the burning match, she just glanced at it and left the area.

Over eighty-thousand acres of valuable timber burned.. Janice Stevenson, was arrested on suspicion of starting the fire. She pled guilty to second-degree arson, was sentenced to twenty-five  years in the South Dakota State Penitentiary, and ordered to pay restitution in the amount of $42,204,155.48 [CNN.com Sept. 2000].

Hearing this story we might say, How could she leave a burning match in a dry forest?”  Yet according to the Scriptures this is what we do daily when we do not guard our tongues. 

James 3:5-6  “Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.      

The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.”

Personally, I often talk without thinking how  the one receiving the words may feel. I may not intend to hurt, yet my words could cause great damage like the burned forest.  It might take years to restore.

Proverbs 15:4 “A gentle tongue is a tree of life but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.”   Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Wholesome words give life.

Many times we are blind to the affect of our words. Let us pray that the Lord will open our eyes to ways that our words are hurtful or damaging. The next time you think to say something that might hurt… Pause, pray, and try to rephrase what you  say to uplift and encourage that person.

Proverbs 10:20-21 (NIV)The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value. The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of sense.

Here I paraphrase Germaine Copland’s Prayers That Avail Much for Women

Lord, help me to let go of all bitterness and bad temper and  anger.  Thank you for being my Wonderful Counselor and thank you for helping me to be forgiving and with the help of Your Holy Spirit I can get rid of all bitterness. My desire is to be holy so that others can see You in me. In Jesus name, Amen